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Infertility is the inability to naturally conceive a child or the inability to carry a pregnancy to term. There are many reasons why a couple may not be able to conceive, or may no...
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I have so many mixed emotions about moving on to IVF. My DH and I have been TTC for about 3 years. We got one BFP but I MC'd at 10 weeks. That was last year after doing 2 IUI's. I have now done 6 more IUI's some with meds some without and still no BFP. I am wondering how to know when it's time to move on? We got our BFP after our second IUI without meds. So I know we can get pregnant it just hasn't happened again since the end of last year. I guess I am looking for my DS ladies to give their advice since I trust it more htan I really trust my RE's. When I talked to him, he said if I am thinking about it, then I should move on to IVF. Easy for him to say since he will get thousands of my $$$$ if I move on to IVF. I never in a million years thought I would get to this point. When DH and I started this journey we said we would do everything short of IVF but not do that. Now I am standing on the edge of this mountain and I don't know what to do. DH and I decided to do a few more natual IUI cycles through the en dof the year. I had a bad reaction to the fertility meds and in some ways I think that is why I am so nervous about the IVF. If I do the IVF the meds will be even higher and I am concerned about how my body will react. I would love anyone's advice on this. How did you decide that IVF was the way to go? Faith, Hope, and Baby Dust to All. XO :)
Posted on 11/04/09, 05:11 pm |
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If I could afford to do it, I would totally do IVF in a shared-risk type plan. But that's me. Between my lack of ovulation and DH lack of sperm we're basically praying for a miracle at this point.
That said, this is a decision only you and DH can make. Even though you said you'd never do IVF when you first started, you had no idea you would end up at this spot. Perhaps it is something you and DH need to really talk about and research. I can't imagine being in your situation Jen, but I know that you and DH will make the best decision for YOU. And I hope no matter what you decide, that you will one day be a mommy as you have dreamed. :) Sticky baby dust to you!!! :) 
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Hi, IVF wasn't so much a decision as the only option open to us for the next few years.
I had a couple of miscarriages at the end of last year and the beginning of this year, and was diagnosed with turner's syndrome in june, which leaves me with a 2%-3% chance of carrying to term without IVF and PGD. So here I am just over a year married and starting my very first fertility treatment tomorrow, which will lead to us knowing if IVF is going to work for us at all. For me, the decision was not so much weither or not to do IVF, but weither or not to try and have our own biological baby. It's certainly been a case of in at the deep end. I hope you are able to make a decision that is right for you and your husband. Kindest of regards, Joanna. Xx
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Jenn,
I moved to IVF after 5 cycles of IUI's. My insurance covers up to 6 but I skipped right to IVF(no insurance). As you are aware in the world of IVF the older we get the lower the success rate so I didn't want to waste any more time. The meds has caused me to gain ~30# and other factors but I'm praying it all pays off. Best of luck in decision.
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I wish I had some words of wisdom for you. I think about being in your position all the time and I honestly don't know what I would decide. I do think that you should talk about it with DH and make sure whatever your decision is, you both agree on it 100% b/c either way you are going to need each other for support. I wish you the best of luck and I'm sure whatever you decide will be the right thing for you.
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We had no choice but to do IVF. With us we wanted to try whatever we could to have our own child. If it did not happen: then we would be able to look at each other and say we tried and move on to option B which was adoption. We were afraid of the whole what if scenerio would happen. I hope this was helpful. I only gained 9lbs on the meds and have a beautiful baby and 2 frozen babies waiting.
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You guys are great. Thank you for all your advice and support. DH and I talked about it last night and we may be leaning towards adoption instead of IVF. We talked about continuing the IUIs for a while since as my doctor says they are the natural way with a kick since I am not on meds. But starting adoption process next year. We haven't madea final decision and I am still looking into both options but, I think I am really leaning towards adoption. Perhaps there is a reason that DH and I have not been able to conceive a baby. XO :)
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