What is Infertility
Infertility is the inability to naturally conceive a child or the inability to carry a pregnancy to term. There are many reasons why a couple may not be able to conceive, or may no...
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After about 2 years ttc, my husband and I got tested; and we just found out my egg quality is poor. I have to have a procedure done at the end of the month to remove a possible cyst which my doctor said turns out to be nothing when they get in there. He broke down our options which are first hormone shots for at least two cycles and then IVF for 3 or 4. After that he would suggest we use donor eggs. I am feeling really frustrated because I don't think anyone is looking at this realistically. The hormone shots only have a 10-15% success rate and the IVF a 30-40% success rate. My husband sang and danced in the car on the way home! Number 1, we just found out the likelyhood of having a baby naturally is not good; number 2, we don't have the money for IVF. Am I overreacting? Should I be like everyone else and look at the bright side of a 40% chance? Why is it when it's a situation of a 40% chance of winning a prize people are logical and say, "That's not so good."; but now everyone is like, "40% isn't so bad." It seems like my husband is the least realistic of them all; I can't even talk to him about it, because he just makes me irate. I hope someone can give me some advice. I'm sure I'm not the only one to feel this way, right?
Posted on 11/06/09, 02:11 pm |
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I wanted to say thank you to everyone for all of the replies they are leaving. It is very helpful for me, and I can't explain how much my mood has improved since I joined this group.
My family has been supportive, but it is nice to hear what people who have gone thru the experience have to say. It has really made me look at everything from different perspectives and realize that 40% isn't as bad as it first seemed. Thanks so much! 
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My hubby and I tried to conceive for nine years and just gave up trying at one point. We could not afford to have IVF, GIFT or any other artificial means of insemination. We couldn't afford to adopt so we just gave up trying. I was told by a gynecologist that if I was going to have a child, I'd better before I was 42. I thought I had 7 more years...surely...then when I was 38 I had already given up when I found out I was pregnant. I m/c when I was 13 weeks but was able to figure out my ovulation and began to plan out the next time to get pregnant as I was told wait three months. We planned our child and I believe by a miracle we got pregnant the month after the time we were asked to wait. I was 39 at the time and my husband was 52. Our dd was born nine months later at 36 weeks when I was 40 and 16 days and my husband was 53. I was told by my ob/gyn that my chances of conceiving a second time were about 30-40%. I took the risk and though I was advised not to get pregnant again because I had placental abruption with my dd, we do have one child. I do believe in miracles.
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