Infertility Support Group

I am thinking you are probably not the only one in the group in the same situation. I feel like you belong here just as much as anyone else, especially if you find more help and support here than the secondary group.

Thank you!! My husband and I want to raise a baby together. He wasn't around when my kids were little and we just feel like our family isn't complete. My kids actually have his last name because we went to court and had them changed. I was married to their bio dad for 9 years and he has nothing to do with them. Anyway. The kids ask about having another sibling and want one as bad as we do. Anyway. Thank you for accepting me!

Welcome to the main infertility group! I also have secondary infertility. I tried the Secondary Infertility support group and you are right, it is definitely not as active or as helpful as this support group. I have gotten many answers to questions and great support as DH and I went through IVF. Since many women in this support group have primary infertity I do not talk about my son (3years old) unless my experience can help in some way. So, I think as long as we secondary IFers give and gain advice that helps to conception now and not talk about our children much we honestly fit in great I think. :) And hey! You are not the only secondary IF person on this thread and if you would like to chat about the struggles with Secondary IF I am here for you!

I am not alone! whew!! That makes me feel so much better! I don't ever talk about my kids in here (except in this post) because I don't want to make anyone feel bad.

I'm in the same situation as you. I to decided to come to this group because the secondary group is not active and I wasn't getting the support I needed. I love this group the girls are great.

I have IF because of a placenta acreta I developed after.the birth of my son. I lost 40% of my blood and when the did a D&C to stop the hemorage, the damaged my uterine lining. I was 4 years with no AF and am now TTC with IVF.

Hope you'll like it here.

Secondary infertility is just as painful. Don't feel bad, because your struggle is just as hard. One of my dearest and oldest friends has a son from a relationship that ended badly, but he is the light of her life. She found an incredible man who is everything she could have ever wanted (and everything we ever wanted for her). He adopted her son and considers him to be his own, but they want to have a child together, understandably, and her son desperately wants a sibling. They have fertility problems on both sides, and she found out today her last IVF treatment has failed. Their only options now are adoption or egg donation. Even though she has a son she adores, she's still feeling everything I'm feeling, and I wouldn't begrudge her that for anything. Your experience with your husband is now what is your primary focus, so in a way, this is primary IF.

Welcome to the Group!! I agree with others, it is still painful!! I hope that you find the support that you need!! My husband has children (they live with their mother) and we are in the same boat of wanting children together!! I wasn't there when his children were born and have not been a part of their lives from the beginning!!

I agree about the secondary IF board. I joined this group after 2 years TTC and when I started my 1st and only IVF in 2011. It worked and I finally became a mommy to a beautiful little girl in November. I joined 2nd IF, but always end up here instead.

I would love another LO, but for the 2 years I prayed for god to give us "just one" and I feel greedy praying for another, am I silly? I would be happy with one and I'm so thankful to finally be a mom, but we would like another LO. We have been TTC since AF returned 2/12, but AF arrived again this morning. The thought of doing IVF again makes my stomach hurt, but we do want more children.

A friend who had a baby a week after me in 11/11 just announced she is pregnant again and due in Dec... Really like this is some race. And my MIL was playing with DD and asking her if she wants siblings and giving me looks like "get off your ass and go make me another grandchild".

2nd IF sucks too and I wasn't prepared for it. I'm just tired of this.

Don't feel silly. Pray for another one and I am sure he will give you one. I have faith that my husband and I will have a child together....eventually. He is 38 and I just don't want him to be too old when it happens. :/

We also are going through secondary infertility. Took us 2 years to get our daughter and are now going through more struggles to have another baby. After I had my daughter, I also tried going to the secondary infertility support group and posted but it is not active at all which is why I sometimes post on here and follow what's going on in this group. I sometimes feel guilty for posting on here, but I think anyone going through IF need outlets to go to when feeling down and we need to help each other as well. I also relate to JerseyJen. After praying, hoping for a baby and going through a failed adoption, we finally got our baby girl and at times we feel selfish for wanting another one. We've been ttc #2 for a year and a half and now have to make the decision to either pursue IVF or adoption, but need to save up before we can do anything. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one in this group going through 2nd IF.