Infertility Support Group

Great idea! Mine would be that I finally told a close friend about our IF issues. I knew I could trust her but opening up was not easy. We had such great conversation over dinner and she offered lots of kind words. But what I appreciated the most was I brought up a mutal friend of ours who "accidentally" got pregnant a 3rd time...she started to give me more details and stopped herself and said "Is it ok I talk about this?". That felt great. I proceeded to tell her that's fine but I really appreciated her asking. My whole point is I am very greatful for her and her thoughtfulness:)

Great Idea!! I love positive posts such as these. Congrats on your doggie news!!

My positive recent activities:
1. After 3+ year of TTC-we are finally starting IVF for the first time ever this month!
2. I got a significant salary increase for my job starting in September.

@HaveFaith 24-I'm glad your friend is so supportive. That's awesome.

Hey this is definitely a great idea..!! I'm tired of feeling unhappy, unsatisfied, jealous, frustrated etc..

The great things in my life right now -

1. Well the great things about my life right now is that I have joined a Yoga class and I just love it especially because the instructor is also going through "infertility" issues and so she is aware of the problems and gives me special instructions for the yoga steps.
2. Then the other good thing is that I made a wonderful birthday cake for my hubby
3. I spoke to my Sister in Law about my problems and she was pretty supportive and gave me some pep up talk.
4. My sister and my nephew might visit me soon..
5. I have the most comfortable job on earth
6. Last but the best, I have the most wonderful husband.. the ever loving , caring husband.. He just loves me so much..

My life is pretty much perfect except for the lack of a baby :)

And I still need to work out my -

1. Jealous feelings towards my colleague and friend who was also battling "infertility" and is pregnant now..I was praying for the both of us all the time and was so happy to hear the good news, but after a week, I just started dread even looking at her.. and I am even praying that she will have a miscarriage because I cant bear to hear her talking about her pregnancy.. I know I am such a cruel soul to feel that way..but I am praying to god to forgive me and to not have these kind of feelings.. Phew, I was having such a guilt trip because of these evil thoughts and I am still praying to god to stop bringing these thoughts into my mind.
2. I have to work on my self esteem, because I feel worthless just because I cant bring a child into this world. I feel ashamed to even look at the faces of mothers who are around my age. Like as if I am an underachiever..

Yeahhh.. I just have 2 heavyweight issues to work on.. The rest are the countless blessings that I have in my life..

Cidekmat, great news about your doggie. :-)
Tina, good luck on your first IVF!

I love reading these. I try to ask myself "what's not wrong?" (advice from a monk, Thich Nhat Hanh) Asking what is not wrong in my life and focusing on that helps lift my mood.

Positives:
1. I started seeing a counselor yesterday. I am not sure why I waited so long to get help with the emotions of IF, but what a comfort.
2. My husband makes me laugh every day.
3. We went to the zoo last weekend. So many amazing diverse animals. We live on a beautiful planet!

I love this!!!!! Well for me after years of trying and tons of heartache we are finally pregnant, 6 1/2 months now! So far so good! My hubby is amazing in every way, We are going to a pool party tomarrow and I am getting maternity pics Sunday! Happy Days!!!
Cidekmat- awesome news about your little doggy!!!!!
Have faith24- So glad you have someone to talk to now, my bestfriend went thru everything we have and more and she has been my go to person! It really helps!
tinababe- more money is always great and will be praying for you with IVF
kattypuppy- we are both so lucky in the hubby category!
sharynmarie- I went to a counselor as well and she made me feel so good! Just like coming on here.
You girls are awesome!!!

I love that quote, Sharyn, about focusing on what's not wrong.
What's not wrong in my life?

1.) I realize that I have more friends in my social network than I've ever had in my entire life. Growing up, I was the awkward, nerdy kid that had maybe five friends and was constantly picked on. Yet, I look at all the people I interact with on a personal level, and I have a support network of amazing people now in my 30s that I never dreamed I would have when I was a teenager.

2.) I have two nephews who adore me. My 2 1/2 year old nephew (the oldest one) is thrilled whenever I come over and see him, and drags me everywhere with him while I'm there. It's amazing to feel like I'm important in a child's life, even if I don't get to have him all the time.

3.) This IF journey brought me to a really low point. Normally, my husband is the sort of guy who hides his emotions, so I have started doing the same. But when I was, quite literally, rock bottom, I opened up the floodgates of everything I was feeling (suicidal, depressed, angry, ugly, despairing, worthless, incompetent, unworthy). I told him I'd understand if he didn't want a wife with so much baggage, and he informed me that he loved me, and wanted me, exactly as I was. I allowed myself to be completely vulnerable and he stepped in to be my rock. It took 6 years of marriage, and a horrible hardship, to realize just how much of a partner I have. It's weird to think that IF made us a stronger couple, but since that opening up epiphany, we've been closer than ever. We WANT to rely on each other and be together. We completely trust the other to be there in comfort and strength. We enjoy having each other around and knowing the other is there. I suppose it's another one of those convoluted ways of God (although, He could've taken an easier route, IMO).

what a great idea cidekmat! Things like this are one of the reasons I love you!

* My lovely wife gave me a card this morning for no reason at all. She just is super sweet like that and knows how much I appreciate the little things. :) I am so incredibly lucky to be madly in love with my best friend!

* I have 3 fur babies that I adore. My newest baby has an upset tummy right now, but even with him not feeling well, he still loves and cuddles like no other. Seeing his happy little baby tail wagging makes me giggle :)

* My lovely wifes "hobby" of refinishing and seeling antigue dressers is turning into more of a business than we ever anticipated. She has people lined up waiting to purchase her latest creations. I am grateful that it is a hobby that she loves and that she is doing so well with it. I've always known she was talented but now that I have created her a webpage, she is getting attention from lots of people and seeing her happy and proud gives me the warm fuzzies :)

Thank you everyone reading all of your happy point is a happy point I would like to say means a lot to me... some days are hard and knowing that there are good things in our lives helps clear the haze a little bit... Your rays of sunshine make my ray brighter on a day like today...


oh and another thing I would like to add... I am in the process of trying to start an infertility support group in my town as right now there are none... rays of sun all around :)

cidekmat - how awesome that you are starting a support group in your town!!

Also what a great idea for positive posts!!

My positive things-
1. I'm starting grad school in two weeks (I love school so I'm pretty excited)
2. My husband brought me home my favorite starbucks drink today
3. I started a blog about our IF journey and it's really helped for friends and family to be more understanding with what were a going through

I think with everything we go through with IF we forget the good things in life. This is a good idea!

My Goods:
1) My youngest fur baby is 2.5 years and has finally reached his full grown size according to the vet. He is 165 pounds of snuggles! Yeah you read that correctly ;)
2) We had a lot water damage in our house 4 months ago (not cool) and are finally finishing up the repairs this weekend. We were able to do some upgrades so now I can stop complaining about the horrible floor that had been in the kitchen and the best part, insurance has covered it all!
3) I fly to NH next week for a really good family friends wedding!