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Hey all,
My name is Lauren, I am 23 years old and have been married for 15 months. My husband and I were both married before so when we started dating and getting serious I knew we would start trying as soon as we were engaged. We were engaged in December of 2010 and Married in February. On December 22 I removed my IUD and we started the process expecting it to happen in just a few months little did I know the road we were starting on. After no results in 6 months I sought the advice of my gynecologist who ran test with nothing but positive results. A few month later we tested my husband. The results were different then we had anticipated. His sperm count was very low, they didn't swim, and were all mis-shapen. We then started a course of treatment after finding that he had an infection in his prostate and testicles. After 2 months of strong antibiotics we were told that he needed to rerun a sperm test. By this time it had been over a year of trying and my husband was starting to get discouraged. We are at a stand still. I am fighting to continue treatment and my husband is slowly starting to loose faith. We are currently living in an area with no fertility clinics nor any specialist.

I came to this blog for support. I am tired of talking to my friends who do not have fertility issues as they tell me that I should just give it time. I am tired of people I am too young to be worried about it. My heart sinks every time I get on Facebook because it seems like every time someone else shows up pregnant. I am at the point that I want to give up trying but know if I do it will not solve any problems. I am at a stand still of what to do next.
Posted on 07/05/12, 08:08 pm
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Reply #1 - 07/05/12  8:59pm
" Lauren,

Welcome to the group!! This is a great bunch of ladies!!

As for your hubby getting discouraged, it's hard when they feel that they are the cause. I hope that his count has gone up and things are looking better. I know that when we first started our journey in 2010, my husband's first count was 5mil. He also had an infection (not sure where because the military hospital sucked and refused to give him antibiotics), his next count was 66mil. The urologist that he saw said that it could take quite a while (that was before his second test) to raise his count because he obviously had a bad infection.

I hope that he realizes that it will get better and there are options for y'all.

HUGS!! "
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Reply #2 - 07/06/12  9:27am
" Lauren,
Welcome! Here you will find ladies that are experiencing the same as you. Just reading people's post make me feel better. Some days I'm in the mood to just read and some days I feel like posting. IF is def a journey you need support on from people who are in the same boat as you. My DH has really slow swimmers as well. We have tried 5 unsuccessful IUI's and are now waiting to save up some money for IVF. I agree about FB. All my friends post about their "happy little familes" and I just want to punch them in the face. I rarely go on FB anymore. Only you and your DH can decide what's next for ya'll as a couple. My only advice is to keep your relationship strong with your DH. IF can either tear you apart or bring you closer together than you thought possible. Hugs and prayers from TX. "
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Reply #3 - 07/06/12  11:54am
" I'm sorry that you and DH are having IF trouble..I'm using D/S myself, but I would imagine that dealing with IF from the male side would be more difficult..as much as men would like us to believe we are the sensitive ones when it comes to anything dealing with their manhood, for them that can be a very hard issue.. Maybe you two should seek out some counseling... "
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Reply #4 - 07/06/12  4:03pm
" Welcome to the group. You are in the right place. Try taking a break from facebook that really helped me alot. Hang in there. "
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Reply #5 - 07/07/12  1:22pm
" You are in a good place here! There are so many amazing women that will help keep your chin up and commiserate with you when you need it. Don't give up!!! Have you guys considered counseling to help you cope with the process? My DH and I went for awhile and it really helped him feel better. Me, too. Best of luck! "
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Reply #6 - 07/07/12  5:17pm
" I am glad to hear iam not the only one who hates fb! Thats why i am so glad to find this group!

I hope your DHs levels r great next time and that the infections was the problem!

If not we r all here for you. Good luck! "

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