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I've been reading a book titled "Power vs. Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior", by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. The book gets somewhat involved, but the main thesis of the thing is that when power meets force, power will ultimately win in the end. The book then goes of to give examples of power responses to situations versus force responses to those same situations. What they are really talking about is a change in how you approach a situation, a change in perspective or attitude if you will. I found it quite interesting.
One of the things that we, as incest survivors, need to do is EMPOWER ourselves and take back control of our lives from our perpetrators. I thought some of the sets of opposites they list in the book might prove helpful to those of you who are seeking personal EMPOWERMENT. The following list (it's fairly long) contains one attitude or approach to a situation that is the power attitude or approach, and one attitude or approach that is the force attitude or approach. Remember, power will always win in the long run while force will always lose. The first word listed will be the power word, the second the force word. Abundant vs. Excessive Accepting vs. Rejecting Admitting vs. Denying Aesthetic vs. Artsy Agreeable vs. Condescending Allowing vs. Controlling Appreciative vs. Envious Approving vs. Critical Attractive vs. Seductive Authoritative vs. Dogmatic Aware vs. Preoccupied Balanced vs. Extreme Beautiful vs. Glamorous Being vs. Having Believing vs. Insisting Brilliant vs. Clever Candid vs. Calculating Carefree vs. Frivolous Challenged vs. Impeded Charitable vs. Prodigal Cheerful vs. Manic Cherishing vs. Prizing Choosing-to vs. Having-to Civil vs. Formal Concerned vs. Judgmental Conciliatory vs. Inflexible Confident vs. Arrogant Confronting vs. Harassing Conscious vs. Unaware Considerate vs. Indulgent Constructive vs. Destructive Contending vs. Competing Courageous vs. Reckless Defending vs. Attacking Democratic vs. Dictatorial Detached vs. Removed Determined vs. Stubborn Devoted vs. Possessive Diplomatic vs. Deceptive Doing vs. Getting Educating vs. Persuading Egalitarian vs. Elitist Empathic vs. Pitying Encouraging vs. Promoting Energetic vs. Agitated Enlivening vs. Exhausting Envisioning vs. Picturing Equal vs. Superior Erotic vs. Lustful Essential vs. Apparent Eternal vs. Temporal Ethical vs. Equivocal Excellent vs. Adequate Experienced vs. Cynical Fair vs. Scrupulous Fertile vs. Luxuriant Flexible vs. Rigid Forgiving vs. Resenting Free vs. Regulated Generous vs. Petty Gentle vs. Rough Gifted vs. Lucky Giving vs. Taking Global vs. Local Gracious vs. Decorous Grateful vs. Indebted Harmonious vs. Disruptive Healing vs. Irritating Helpful vs. Meddling Holistic vs. Analytic Honest vs.Legal Honoring vs. Enshrining Humble vs. Diffident Humorous vs. Somber Impartial vs. Righteous Ingenious vs. Scheming Inspired vs. Mundane Intentional vs. Calculating Intuitive vs. Literal Inventive vs. Prosaic Inviting vs. Urging Involved vs. Obsessed Joyful vs. Pleasurable Just vs. Punitive Kind vs. Cruel Leading vs. Coercing Liberating vs. Restricting Long-term vs. Immediate Loyal vs. Chauvinistic Merciful vs. Permissive Modest vs. Haughty Natural vs. Artificial Noble vs. Pompous Nurturing vs. Draining Observant vs. Suspicious Open vs. Secretive Optimistic vs. Pessimistic Orderly vs. Confused Outgoing vs. Reserved Patient vs. Avid Patriotic vs. Nationalistic Peaceful vs. Belligerent Polite vs. Obsequious Powerful vs. Forceful Praising vs. Flattering Principled vs. Expedient Privileged vs. Entitled Prolific vs. Barren Purposeful vs. Desirous Receiving vs.Grasping Releasing vs. Tenacious Reliant vs. Dependent Requesting vs. Demanding Respectful vs. Demeaning Responsible vs. Guilty Satisfied vs. Sated Selective vs. Exclusive Serene vs. Dull Serving vs. Ambitious Sharing vs. Hoarding Significant vs. Important Sober vs. Intoxicated Spontaneous vs. Impulsive Spiritual vs. Materialistic Steadfast vs. Faltering Striving vs. Struggling Surrendering vs. Worrying Tender vs. Hard Thoughtful vs. Pedantic Tractable vs. Contrary Trusting vs. Gullible Truthful vs. False Unifying vs. Dividing Unselfish vs. Selfish Valuing vs. Exploitative Virtuous vs. Celebrated Warm vs. Feverish Sometimes, just a simple shift of perspective or attitude can make the difference between power and force, success and failure, joy and misery, or personal empowerment and self-sabotage. Just thought this information might open a few eyes. If you would like to learn more about this book, or purchase it for yourself, you can visit Hay House (hayhouse.com), or you can call them at (800-654-5126. Posted on 11/03/09, 07:11 am |
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This was quite helpful. Thank you for this!
ladym 
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You're very welcome, ladymozart. I delighted you found something useful, and maybe even helpful in my post.
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