Advertisement
Do you suffer from chronic pain?
Learn how straightening up can ease your pain
Chronic pain management tips
Learn how straightening up can ease your pain
Chronic pain management tips
More DailyStrength
|
stuck between a rock and hard place
|
Watch this |
| View More Posts Ignore |
I feel like i'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.. I take these steps to help me get better, to learn copping skills, to speak up,and not to put it all on me. But i feel like it's all pointless in a sense because i'm going to be put right back into the same situation and everything just goes out the window... I was at my aunts house (my cousin stays there when he's here ) and it was so triggering especially the soap in the bathroom which you can smell in the hall ugh i can't stand it it sends me back..so many memories in that house both good and bad. I look at my other cousins and we laugh play joke and fool around, actually it was one of the best days full of laughs in a while... And yet i could lose it all at the blink of an eye.. We take care of our own they say...My family on that side the guys are nothing but alcoholics, pot heads and gang bangers ....How do i end something with out losing it all and that may include my life if i was to get him locked up but to be shunned from the family...ugh idk
Posted on 08/08/12, 12:34 am |
| 7 Replies | Add Your Reply |
| View More Posts Ignore |
I am so sorry for all your struggles. You remind me of my own daughter so I hate to see you suffer. From my experience I realized that sometimes there is just no way to be in a safe environment and maintain a relationship with all your family members, sorry. I finally decided if anyone in my family did not support my recovery they are out of my life, I do not need the negativity. It was hard at first but I feel so much better now, lighter. I hope you can find a safe place and be able to stay away from the abusers. Good luck and stay strong. 
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
I don't understand your entire scenario, but I heard you say "we take care of our own." The thing that is so hard to remember is that they aren't taking care of us, they are hurting us, that is why we are in so much pain.
I don't have an answer to the rock and a hard place, but I believe you do, it's inside you. Good luck finding it in yourself, keep believing.
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
Thank you so much guys
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
Hey Hope,
hard place, eh? Yeah, i can understand. I was in a hard place a few years back. Well lets say years back. I was young and couldnt really take care of me -- couldnt really move out coz I was too young. Or I didnt have the support. I couldnt run away, I was too chicken. But you know I learnt to cope, not the best answer. But I really did my best in school, worked hard at my goal. Which was to move out and be independant, and have no one hurt me anymore! That didnt really happen for me, I did move out -- but not independantly. Why am i sharing all of this. To give you hope, to encourage you that you can have a goal and reach it. Make a goal, small steps and you will one day (maybe real soon) be on your own and totally safe. I know that you dont want to be totally alone, without family. But you can keep the safe ones! the safe family. I hope im making sense.
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
It made all the sense in the world thank you buckle.. That gives me motivation to continue, and hope in my future :)
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
I know what you are saying... I still have contact with my dad and my family and they dont want to remember and they still help me sometimes financially and it makes me feel yucky to accept their help but I dont know what else to do because I am not making it on my own yet... and all I wanna do is run far away and never look back...
but I found a nice catholic church where I stay now and I like to go there, I always thought church didnt help to much because a lot of the mens of my past were from the baptist church... but this catholic church has been a safe place for me and it has helped me increase my faith, it is hard for me to trust... or I trust to easy, I just keep praying my rosary and think about how nice Mother Mary is and how she feels like the momma I didnt have, chin up because it will all be in the past pretty soon ~love
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
|
|
|
|
||
| Add Your Reply |
Advertisement
More From Around the Web
