Incest Survivors Support Group

Hi hope,

Is there a way you can say no, is it your own house? There has to be a way for you to say no, no one cant stay at your house, esp. if they are not safe! I know that the family thing is to have family stay with eachother. But if they are abusing and hurting you --- they cant.

Sadly it's my parents house and my mother would never turn down her brothers they can do no wrong in her eyes

I see -- is it possible for you to go spend time out this week end? maybe to a friends or another relatives safe house? I went camping this week with just a tent and some things. I was very comfortable and I really enjoyed myself. Very inexpensive as well....is that a possibility? do you have to join in the party.?

I have to my mother has been planning this for about a month now. She wants it to be like a family reunion and i wont have my friends to help me escape him like last time.. The party isn't until the 18th i have time to...think

That is great planning -- Yes think! Hummmm
I understand your Mom wants this to be perfect. I am sure you appreicate your grandma, so what ever the party is for, im sure you want it great for your grandma.
since you already know the game plan a bit. Which is lots of drugs and drinking right? and hugs from Uncle an such. Well I would really plan a defense -- I will be thinking along with you.
I would buy a pad lock for my room or I would ask safe 'family' members to bunk with me in my room? is that something you can do. As well 'STAND UP' say no when he comes hugs ya! be firm, if it upsets someone tell them you dont like hugs! not from that source anyway!
I wish you the best of luck, prepare --
lots of hugs

You reminded me that i now have a lock on my door :) but my mom might make me give my bed up to someone :( I hate not knowing the future and the drugs and stuff will just make situations worst because no one will pay mind to him or me. He tried dancing with me and ugh i just know its an unsafe situation that freaks me out... Thank you bucklemyshoe for helping and thinking with me

is it possible to tell your Mom?
I am here for you, Hope if we lived closer I'd have you at my house!
be safe okay :)

my mom doesn't listen about the cousin who abuses me. i know she wont her brother... thank you :) you give me hope

Hope, can you go ahead and make your sleeping arrangements? Something along the line of "Cousin X and I want to bunk together".
Similarly with the dancing and partying, find someone to have your back, and you have theirs. I guarantee, you are not the only one in the family facing your uncle.....and besides, it's only natural for you to hang with others your own age. If you can't talk about, then bypass the situation until you can.

Sending hugs your way
Pam

Thank you pam your right i'm going to try to go a head and make my sleeping plans and hopefully my mom goes along with it.. Your right i'm going to try and bypass the situation