Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction Support Group

Viagra helps many diabetics! Has he talked to his doctor about it? He sounds like he is healthy enough for sex. He should ask his doctor for a free sample of viagra!

The samples come in 50 miligrams but the maximum dose is 100 so if one sample pill has no effect after about an hour, try taking two.
It will only work if he is turned on so make sure you give him a reason to get turned on.

Hope this helps!

TC

My condolences on your situation. I envy "S" in having a partner as hot as you. I am not diabetic; rather, an old dude with ED. I have used Viagra, Levitra and Cialis in the past with reasonable success. The ED gradually got worse for a couple of reasons. My urologist prescribed a vacuum pump. This is a mechanical solution, but it is a solution to flacid. "S" might want to try it. It is call ErecAid. And, don't take flacid personally. Believe me, ED usually has nothing to do with partners.

Every wants in a while I read someone write that the wife or girlfriend is at fault for there ED. That makes me so mad. It takes so much to get to the point to not blame ourself. To have someone say something like this makes me glad my husband never blamed me. All of this is so hard on everyone.

During the 15 years that my husband was not diagnosed, I felt ugly and fat. I wore size 8 clothes and am 5'10. Then I gained 100 pounds because I thought it as about me. I have been scared to lose it because if he then wanted me after I was skinny, I would hate him. Does that make since. I didn't want to think he could be that shallow and hurtful. I feel such a relief now. I know I can now lose this weight. I am down 30 pounds so far.

There are many ways to be very sexually satisfied other than by intercourse. I am sure if you look through this group, you will see that many men are capable of ejaculating from recieving oral sex.
Even though they remain flacid, it feels just as good as ever.

Similarly many women can reach orgasm from digital and oral stimulation from a man. One woman who is very experienced told me she had ejaculated for the first time in her life when she and a partner had used a sex toy.

In reading the postings at the Healthy Sex group on DS, I see many women claim they enjoy giving oral. My recommendation would be for him to check with his doc and see in Viagra or Claias.If that does not work, then just have very very long foreplay until you are both totally satisifed. If there is still no satisfaction, try a toy or two. There are strap on dildos, and unless she is looking, the woman cannot tell the difference, nor does she care very much. LOL

Thank you all for your replies, I wish I would have seen this before I was dumped by my Ex. Our story sounds like the OP's. The problem for us was she never talked about how she was feeling and I didn't communicate my frustrations well.
Replying to Crusty's post, it's nice to read that there's someone else who has ED, but still can ejaculate.
To Redswan, have him go to the doctor, then a urologist! Don't trust his primary doctor to have the FINAL answer. The next steps would be Viagra type medications, then (not commonly talked about), a Vacuum Pump, after that, suppositories, followed by or as another option, injections, the medication for injection is administered with the same needle that you use to inject insulin, so, not so foreign as one might think. Lastly, a surgical implant may be used, although, when I've discussed this with doctor's, they didn't present it as such a wonderful option (?loss of sensation, risk of infection?[upto 15%]) But it does work for intercourse.
As for me, I'm not sure how to move on from my relationship, I don't think I could ever let someone close enough to even see if they would be willing to work with me on my ED. My Ex handled things in the WORST possible way, she was very clumsy about it.
(Honestly, if she was kinder, it might have been easier, if she were meaner, I could have vilified her.SHe got me right in the most vulnerable part of me. She didn't even have the courtesy of saying "me, not you")
But Redswan, you're still with your man, take time to talk about things. GET counseling to help with this discussion, it's an absolute MINEFIELD of a topic.
You have every right to be frustrated and express that to your partner, but for me, sexual function is absolutely the TOP of the list of topics that can shatter a fragile (or strong) ego. I suggest a counselor because if he's sensitive, he'll pick up on your annoyance, and get defensive. It would be very easy to degenerate into an argument, or fight.
Best of luck to you , BSOF