Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction Support Group

Torrie your partners is probably medical too. Do not give up and do not cheat! Unless he has been to an endocrinologist AND a urologist, you cannot rule out that it is medical. Has he tried viagra or any other ED drugs?

willysayshi... you say "It's better to be honest amd "cheat" with their permission." If it was that easy... I have actually asked my H if i could and he says no way. He feels bad that we cant have full blown intercourse and hopefully things will c hange soon bec ause i told him i NEED him to get more medical help...

You know sleeping beauty? Your answers are not supportive. Get off your high moral horse and be a little more sensitive. Yes, testosterone testing has been done and we are waiting for results, however, we have been told for MY husband, that if he chooses to under go the treatment for low T, the possibility of ANOTHER stroke or life threatening heart attack is quite high. And.. the pills they offered, and we have tried quite a few, DID NOT WORK. How much more clear does that have to be? I'm very in control of my life and my marriage.

I was cheated on and it pretty much ruined my effing life. I'm trying to prevent anyone else from feeling that horrible pain. Being in a sexless marriage? Not even the tip of the pain iceburg... I THOUGHT that was pain... Feeling so desperate for love from the one man I loved and was continually rejected by. Then I found out what being cheated on felt like- from my experience of both- no comparison. That is NOT a choice. If your h has no options then u need to come to a mutual agreement- open marriage, just oral, sex toys- whatever. I never said anything about women who were not saying they were going to cheat.

And there are other options. There are certain female fertility drugs I think can make men start producing testosterone. I would also get a second opinion bc most of my research say low T causes artherosclerodis and other cardiovascular issues. Also there are penile shots and suppositories that have almost no failure rate. I am not trying to be on a "high horse"- I am just trying to help people bc it was very hard for my H and I to get any help of find any info about this that was fact based, not old assumptions. And when it comes to cheating I am a very passionate protester, as I'm sure you can understand seeing as it nearly killed me. And that is not an exaggeration. Ignoring the problem or going outside of your marriage will only cause more pain, guilt, doubt, and frustration on BOTH spouses. I hate how people tall about it like a real freaking option! It is soul destroying!!!! So sorry if the truth is too close to reality for you.

All I want to say is it will take both of you to make it though this. Hopefully he can get help and make it work. I have been married for 36 years. We use to have sex twice a day then as I grew older it slowed down some. Then I found out that I was BP and the roller coaster ride of different meds I lost interst in sex. Me, Mr. Sex hisself had no interest in sex at all.

I'm new to this forum, but I know 1st hand that what you're talking about is serious. My wife and I had HUGE issues because of the lack of sex in our relationship. The good news is you guys know why your husband is not in the mood.

I'm not sure if the pain is the issue, or perhaps the medication...

If it's the meds, perhaps you would benefit from reading this article that has helped me tremendously.

http://www.squidoo.com/how-I-cured...

I hope it will help you guys like it helped me.

Calavaro

bye some sex toys and get him to use them on you if he cant get an errection any more the least he could do is give you some contact go to your local sex shop and choose the toys together. those who play together stay together. it worked for me it got both our juices flowing
hugs & xxx smarty42