Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction Support Group

I've just come home after the weekend with my partner. So sad and frustrated that I finally said to him that he must tell me if he doesn't want sex anymore. He looked completely suprised but I said that most of the time it feels as though he's only going along with it for my sake and that if he just wants the cuddling now he must say so and I won't keep bashing on. He was 65 a couple of weeks ago and when we talk about sex and viagra etc he says he's getting on now and he can't do it on demand any more, but that the pills cost
too much. Which all says to me he can't be bothered any more.

But he said No No, I like it

Then I came home

I wasn't accusing, more sad than anything, but I need to be freed from this prison of 'maybe tomorrow it'll work' 'perhaps if I just stay over tonight we'll have better sex'. I want us to be happy together and maybe without that pressure things will be more straightforward

He says he still likes sex, so why is it always me who has to make the first move? Why does he just lie there, barely moving while I do it all to him? Why does he lose his erection after a minute or so of intercourse then fall asleep immediately like it was all too much bother?

Work's not going well for me, sex with him isn't working, things feel like they're all in a mess right now. I need to get this back under my control even if it means no sex with him anymore

I'd really appreciate any thoughts
Posted on 08/07/12, 02:15 am