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My Boyfriend has ED
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Hello! I need help figuring out what to do. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now... He told me when we moved in together that he has ED and takes Cialis to help with it. When we first met I had no idea, and we were having sex daily. I'm 22 and he's 30. I have a very high sex drive and having problems trying to be intimate with my boyfriend. He's said the Cialis just isn't working anymore. And I'm feeling very unwanted, and unattractive. He's says its not me, but I'm thinking that may not exactly be true. I check his computer daily because I have trust issues, and lately I've been seeing porn websites on his history. And about a month ago a sex game. (He claimed he was playing it because a friend told him about it, and he thought it was funny.) I'm at a complete loss of what to do. I feel like I'm too young not to be having sex, and need advice. Please help!
Posted on 03/01/12, 09:50 am
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Reply #1 - 03/08/12  7:36am
" my boyfriend also has Ed and has done since we met. he told me right from the start, but i know how i feel about him, and it didnt put me off. we have been together for 3 years and are discussing a baby - obviously we have to think of different ways if sex doesnt work. he hates taking pills and i have never forced him, so we have hardly ever had intercourse. I think sex is important, but intimacy is more important. oral sex, cuddles and kisses go a long way too. My boyfriend finds it really hard to talk about, which i understand, and sometimes i think its my fault too. but it's not - it's just one of those things! at the end of the day its a medical problem like anything else, but unfortunately it can have a lot of repurcussions, emotionally and mentally, on both parts. being honest about how you both feel and trying to keep open about it is all you can do. encourage him to go back to the doctor to see if there is something else he can try. "
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Reply #2 - 03/11/12  2:08pm
" Hi

My name is Bonnie Im 45 my husband is 59. The 1st thing u need 2 have him do if he is not bullshitting u about the reason 4 no sex drive, is have him go to the Dr & get tested for low testosterone levels. I had frikkin had it & my hubby acted like no biggy..he finally got tsted & its very low. Had 2 start taking shots 2x's a month. It is way better, but he hates needles.
My husband and I have been dealing w/this for years Been 2gether 20. I know how u feel about not feeling wanted etc. at 45 woman also go into whats called our "sexual prime" so I feel ya. it is the hardest thing Ive ever had 2 deal with
if he really luvs u he will go if not Let me say My opinion only..U r so young. You will fall in luv so many times from now til u r my age. If he isnt willing to do what it takes, then move on
To your point, the pron. he might be trying to see if he gets turned on by watching it..maybe suggest u guys watch it 2gether
They alos make good reputable over the counter testosterone mds at GNC etc. That work if he doesnt have enough guts 2 go to Dr Good luck "
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Reply #3 - 03/16/12  11:13pm
" Thank you ladies so much for the encouragement. I just didn't know where else to turn. I don't want to talk about it with people he knows because I get that it's embarrassing. I agree about the intimacy aspect and not just sex. We're working on that. And thank you so much Bonnie. I know he has low testosterone because he's told me that in the past. He said he didn't like the shots. I'm def. going to check into those pills for him.... I had no idea I could get them over the counter for him. Sorry for the late response been dealing with doctors for me the week. "
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Reply #4 - 03/17/12  4:47am
" Yeah my hubby hates the shots too..whimp...lol..suck it up!!! Testosterone is thick and it hurts
Check out androgel.com" title="http://www.androgel.com" target="_blank">www.androgel.com they make the shot form of testy & they also make a gel form that is rubbed into the upper chest & arm area that would b covered by a t-shirt (B careful u need 2b careful touching him in areas applied until he washes off...the sites very informtive
Right now ( I just signed up for it) they r offering the gel for $10 a month. It usually costs $40 w/out insurannce, if he has ins them maybe cheaper
Cialis also has a daily regimen if it works 4 him...keeps the levels up..but we tried them all. levitra, viagra, I think there's a new one out now..
U might have to experiment w/them to see what works 4 ya
This site has an area that will give u the latest info too
W/my hubby is 59 testy works. U can spend soooo much $$ trying to find pills and shit that doesnt work. The testosterone is the best and if his levels r low..it will help. Just may need to do it more than once a month
Id try the gel 1st alot of these over the counter drugs that "work" r as much if not more than the testy does
He needs 2 recognize that a young woman like u in your sexual prime is willing to deal w/an issue that usually occurs in men twice his age..sometimes they need 2b reminded of that
Good luck and if u ever wanna babble we r all here 4 ya "
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Reply #5 - 07/09/12  6:38pm
" Use of porn and masturbation can cause ED and impotency. Often those that are off into that can get and maintain an erection "by hand" but cannot perform otherwise. And, eventually, they can't even raise it for that. Often they don't know what they're creating and it's too late. They don't maintain enough sensitivity to have regular sex. Sad...but true.

A doctor can check hormones and the like. But, if he's heavy into porn and other things, it won't help. "
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Reply #6 - 07/12/12  3:44pm
" SheenRE is spot on its taken me years but porn/masterbation will destory any quality erections ... with porn i found now its not beautiful women that i masterbate too because that don't cause any sexual response .. it more usually stuff / settings with just plain looking females - i'm sure in time that won't work "
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Reply #7 - 07/21/12  8:49am
" Your bf probably built up a tolerance to the dosage or to the Cialis. You might want to have him talk to his doctor about the issue. He may want to try another ED drug, such as Levitra or Viagra, or increase the dosage of the Cialis. I won't say your bf is looking at the porn to prove to himself that it isn't you and that nothing works. I don't want to speak for him though. I don't want to speak for him. You might to talk to him about it, if it really upsets or offends you. Set your mind at ease. I hope this helps. "

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