Hysterectomy Support Group

hello, im new to :), im 34 with a12 yr old daughter, im just waiting to find out if im having 1 seeing my consultant wed take care Bee add me if you like :)

thanks for the reply ive sent a friend request hope everything goes ok x

Hi to Honeybee33 & jaimef! I am 38 and just had a vag hyst on July 30th. I had recurrent cervical/uterine cancer, so my doctor removed my cervix, uterus. I kept my ovaries. I was so scared right before surgery, but the lovely ladies here gave me such wonderful support!!! I am only 3 weeks postop, so I don't know if I can say much in some areas as I haven't yet experienced the whole recovery... lol. But, you will find women here at different stages of the recovery that can shed some light on topics for ya! I also am a single mom of one child, a son. I haven't been in a relationship for years and currently am not dating, so I cannot speak on how sex afterwards is... lol. I understand the fear of not feeling like a woman after the surgery. I also felt that way before and after my hyst. I try not to think about it, because I know that I am so much more than a defective organ in my body. My uterus doesn't define me as a woman. A man that loses a testicle(s) to cancer is certainly not less of a man to me. I knew that I was finished having kids (I'm 38... don't date, so it really didn't look very promising to have more kids) so that aspect of the surgery doesn't upset me. I do not know if you two are wanting more children. I can see where the surgery would be very upsetting for you both if that is the case. Plus, being told that my cancer was back, really made it an easy decision for me. If your hyst is an option, then I can see where the decision would be difficult. It wasn't a choice for me... either keep your cancer or take back your life. I have my life back now so that I can be here for a long time with my son! I can say that I love the fact that I will never ever again have a period!!! I will be happy to try to answer any questions that you may have, but know that if I don't have a similar case I will still lend ya an ear and a hug and listen when/if you need to vent or cry. The surgery and recovery were not half as bad as I thought they would be.

Hugs,
Terri

Hi Jamief, good to see you on here. I'm 5 weeks post op and doing pretty well all in all. I 2 had a vaginal hysterectomy and know what your fears about being a real woman are all about... I have the same fears but listen 2 hopefull as She's bang on... We r more than a uterus just like she said and even tho I haven't been intimate yet with my hubby and don't know how it will feel, I still have lots of fear about it.... My post op appt is next week so I guess I will have some answers then... Why r you having the hysterectomy if you don't mind me asking? Mine was for fibroids & or cysts (find out next week) and severe bleeding every month..... Take care, Sharon XX

Hi ladies. I'm a 33-year-old mom of two. I had a hysterectomy a year and a half ago due to fibroids. Feel free to add me if you want to chat :) Take care!

Hi Jaimef, I had my hysterectomy on July 30th as well. I'm 3 weeks out. So far, I don't feel like less of a woman! I haven't been intimate with my husband yet either (but hope to get the go ahead at my next appointment in a few weeks). My healing has gone well, and I have no regrets over my decision. I wish you the best.

Hi I'm new to the group, I am due to have my hysterectomy on the 6th of October have to go into the hospital the day before. I am very nervous I have had lots of surgery before. I have a Cyst about 9mm diameter on my left Ovary. It was thought that I had Endo but when the injections didn't make much difference it was thought otherwise. And therefore a hysterectomy was decided on. I have no children. Did want them but it never happened. I am also looking forward to getting my life back as I just dred the time of the month. Please anyone with any advice it would be very rateful

Hi I am 29 and 3wks post hyterectomy(uterus, cervix, still have ovaries)..i have no kids didn't think i wanted them..until in april of this year i found a great guy and we discussed kids...had to have a dnc, laprascopy done and that is when i found out i had uterine cancer...that led to the surgery..i was and still am majorly upset...it's been rough emotionaly and all that but he is helping a little...i hope to talk to some ppl that is going thru the same thing...tried intercourse but i hurt to much but was wondering if any1 has tried any other way or knws if it is ok just 3wks after...thanks hope to hear from some1 soon..

I am having a Di Vinci hyst on 9/18 and doc is leaving me one ovary. i am also feeling concerned about making the right decision. It's not an emergency, just have had dysplasia for past ten years, did the LEEP procedure, cryotherapy, etc. Family history of breast and ovarian cancer, so just better to take it all (except one ovary) and live to see my three boys grow up. However, I am so afraid that afterwards sex will be different, and my sex life (if it ever returns, I am single) will ever be the same.....I know everyone is different but still scared.

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Surgeons usually clear you for sexual intercourse 6-8 weeks after surgery. I think you are rushing it and I hope your bf isn't putting pressure on you. You are still healing on the inside.