What is Hysterectomy
A hysterectomy is the surgical removal of the uterus, usually done by a gynecologist. Hysterectomy may be total (removing the body and cervix of the uterus) or partial (also called...
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I am 22 years old and just had to have a hysterectomy. I bled for three years straight before the doctors told me it was my only option to stop the bleeding. I had fibroids and pollips and had two D&C's to try and prevent the hysterectomy. But I had to have it anyway. Ne way I am now much better and just spotting and not in much pain anymore, physically. But I am so emotional i can hardly stand to get up every day. It was my dream ever since i was 2 years old to bear children. I actually dressed up and told poeple i was a Mommy for Halloween. Now i can never have those children i always dreamed of. and everytime i see a baby I break down and cry. Please I will take anyones advice on how to get over this. It hurts so bad I dont know what to do. My mom tells me to grow up but she had her two girls she doesnt understand. Yes, I now plan on adopting, but i wanted to carry that baby. Please Help
Posted on 12/14/08, 01:12 pm |
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I am so sorry you are feeling this way...I don't really have any advice to how to get past this pain. I really think talking to a therapist would help. He/She could give you some tools to helps with dealing with the grief that you are feeling.
Good luck with your adoption process! (When you decide to start that process) 
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Ahw, sweetie. I know this must be very difficult for you. I think I would seek some counseling just to help you thru. A lot of times they can provide you with a lot of information to on your journeys for the future for adopting. I do pray for you. Just don't give up! ((((( Many hugs )))))
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I'm really sorry.It's hard to have someone tell u to grow up after all u have been through and to hear that from ur mom is even worse. I think u going and having someone to talk to would help u so much and to find ways to cop with this. My prayers r with u and if u ever need to talk feel free to write me..Don't give up there are people out there that will get u through this.lots of hugs.
Pam
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I completely understand what you are going through! My hysterectomy was 3 years ago and I still have a hard time, it does get easier it still hurt but as time goes on you will understand. Take the time you need to grieve this loss, and yes it is a very big loss. I have found that this is so much harder because not many people understand what we are going through. anytime you need to talk let me know I think sometimes just talking and crying is the best thing you can do.
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I am so sorry for your loss. This kind of loss will be with you for ever, but time does help. I couldn't have children either, not due to a hysterctomy though, just my messed up insides. You need to let it out! Talk to a professional, scream into a pillow and punch it a lot, that helped me. The grieving process is different for everyone so please don't listen to you mom. You deserve to grieve! When you are ready to look into adoption, I can give you some tips. I adopted my son and brought him home at 23 hours old. He is now 15. I am 51. Please take care, you need lots of rest after a hysterectomy, I had one 10 weeks ago. Good luck and I will have you in my prayers for the strength to get through this.
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I can relate to what ur saying I am 32 and had bout 15 laporoscopies and endometriosis... I had no choice but to live in pain or have a full Abdominal hysterectomy I am in 5 weeks post-op and... Im pushin my husband away... I feel like im changin alot.. And seeing any pregnant women or babies I wanna cry... Even the thought or a movie or show with pregnancy KILLS my mind, heart and soul emotioally I feel robbed and broken down... But Like you said there is adoption... And as for me I am going to get back to counseling after the holidays... And the holidays are def. not making it easier... If you ever want to talk im here...
Ox Cheryl
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I am so sorry! I can relate to your pain, I had a hysterectomy when I was 21months old. I was born with caner. It is a terriable feeling! Not you, not me or anyone should have to feel the pain of not being to have kids. Is there anything that has help you deal with it? I am having a really hard time right now. My cousin just had a baby and my sister is expecting! I get so mad, I wish it was me. I am sure you have some of the same feelings. Maybe we can help each other deal with this very hard fact we share.
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I completely understand what you are going through. I had a hysterectomy at 29 after 10 years of relentless problems. I tried to get pregnant but had 2 miscarrages and carried one till the 5th month before i was told that the baby had no heartbeat. I was devistated. I understand how you feel when you look at other people who seem to just keep having children. I still look at people who are having a baby and struggle to find words of encouragement because of my own want and need for a baby of my own. The best advice i can give you is that it is hard and will continue to be hard, but it will get easier to cope with. The want for your own child will never go away as it has not for me but you will find things in your life that will help fill the void. I hope for the best for you and i know in my heart that things will get easier.
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