What is Heroin Addiction
Heroin or diacetylmorphine (INN) is a semi-synthetic opioid. It is the 3,6-diacetyl derivative of morphine (hence diacetylmorphine) and is synthesised from it by acetylation. The w...
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My boyfriend recently stole money from me and admited that he was using again, and this time heroin. He has gone to his family for support and help, they are getting him through it. He is 3 and a half days clean. He is in a differnt city right now and says he cant come see me until hes clean because he needs to get himself better and not worry about how I am feeling. I know this is the truth but I need help being ok with it. All I feel is hatred for him and feel that he is so selfish. He has used OCs in the past and came clean and has been lieing and hiding this for 4 months now. This was the first time has ever stolen from anybody. That is what pushed him over the edge to seek help I believe. At this point I have lost all sympathy for him and the pain he is going through. How do I get back into love and out of this hate. We have been together for 4 years and I have never loved anybody or anything so much in my life. I was set and ready to marry him. I dont know how to get past this and how I will ever trust him again....Please help
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I see you found a more appropriate group to post to. Good work. I replied to your post in the other group. Here is a link to it if you want to take a look (warning, you might not like what I said):
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Mem... 
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Logically, if he cleans up,.. everything is hunkydory .. problem is now, trust. Only way to regain trust is a CAREFUL commitment and intense observation .. so you are not fooled again. Much like probation in a criminal case.
Another thing is .. beyond a heroin habit .. what are his mental/emotional problems? Cleaning up from a junk addiction is just correcting a behavior, .. the cause has to be resolved also. That will be the biggest challenge. I WILL say not all junkies have a mental/emotional problem. There are mentally/emotionally healthy people who get hooked on it all the time. It MAY be that simple .. I would not know.
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I appreciate any reply, whether I like it or not. He is really a good person and I want to give him another chance but I really am struggling being ok with how much he hurt me. I just hope I can get over looking at him as selfish, becuase I know the drug controls alot of his actions...
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He has had issues of depression in the past, alot related to his daughter and not being able to see her. Now that she is in his life those issues have seemed to go away. He has loads of addiction in his family.
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There are many options that help with the situation that may stop his addiction or at the very least, slow it down so he can work out his mental issues; assuming he has any. Suboxone and methadone are used as maintenance therapies. Instead of taking heroin these meds are prescribed or taken at clinics. Two issues: cost without insurance and also commitment. A user can simply stop taking their dose for a day and use. I think there may be naltrexone implants that last for up to six months that work to prevent the user from getting high or at least will deter the user from getting high. There is also ibogaine, which is stupidly illegal, that has a high success rate of literally ending opiate addiction. I know there are clinics around the world that provide the service legally. Additionally, someone in your area may be compassionate enough that could help out. Psychiatrists, psychologists, and support groups like NA/CA/HA and SMART Recovery also can provide much needed talk therapy. There are also groups for the family members and people who are suffering due to someone else using. I think AlAnon is such a group but more dedicated to alcoholism. Inpatient rehab could be another choice for him. Ultimately, it is up to HIM to decide once and for all to want to stop taking heroin and seek professional help. Use extreme caution and discretion while someone is actively using. Stealing, lying, scaming and numerous other methods of scoring will certainly take priority over all other activities.
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