What is Heroin Addiction
Heroin or diacetylmorphine (INN) is a semi-synthetic opioid. It is the 3,6-diacetyl derivative of morphine (hence diacetylmorphine) and is synthesised from it by acetylation. The w...
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I have posted my story many times on here and took every bit of advice that was thrown my way. Yet, I am still here. But then again, Rome was not built in one day and I wasn't asking for a miraculous recovery ha. I won't go through my entire story again, but I will have to sum it up. My boyfriend has been battling addiction with heroin for at least 2 years now. We have tried suboxones and cold turkey. Well, the last time he tried quitting he tried cold turkey, ended up in the hospital for dehydration and kidney damage. Soon after the hospital, he picked the habit right back up (without me knowing). I then found out I was pregnant. Soon after this I found a spoon in my car and he was kicked out of his moms. He ran the streets and was robbing people and acting a fool. He even told me that he considered holding up a cardboard sign. His mother and I were hoping that he would hit his rock bottom. He no longer had either of us and we were no longer enabling him. He called one night wanting to go to his grandma's to get better there and was disappointed in himself and the life that he led. I picked him up and took him to his grandma's where he detoxed. He ended up in the hospital for acute kidney failure and did severe damage to his kidneys from the drug and from dehydrating himself from vomiting and not being able to keep anything down. The doctor told me in the room with him, that he was very lucky and if he returns to his old habits...he won't be so lucky next time and will probably end up killing himself. After the hospital everything seemed fine. His mother was still not talking to him but he seemed to want to get straight. Finally, I let him move into my apartment, since he was not getting along with his uncle at his grandma's. He tried going to a homeless shelter, but I could not let him do that. I was supporting both of us. I then found out that he did it once again. After all that he had been through. It was like, as soon as he got back on our good sides, he went right back to it. Like he had us where he wanted us. Did he not truly hit rock bottom yet and just fooled us? When is this really going to change? I dropped him back off at the homeless shelter so he is currently living there. He has nothing! How is this NOT rock bottom?! If this isn't the worst it is going to get....I can't even imagine =[
I have not heard from him in 3 days and alot of his boxes are at my house, and his hair gel, etc. It's like he plans on coming back since he only took a bag there. I do not want to be foolish enough to let him back into my home. I am 20 weeks pregnant now and do not want to be around all of this stress and heartache! Please tell me what else there is to do? It's like I'm not an enabler for so long but then when he cries for help to get clean I believe him and run to his rescue. I would love and appreciate the advice, and thank you all for reading my story. Posted on 11/01/09, 08:11 am |
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My dear addiction is an illness of relapse. They relapse over and over again. Sometimes they never get better. A lot of people die. They do crazy things to get drug money and end up in all kinds of trouble with thelaw. You can not help him. Only he can do it. But he has to want to very very badly. It doesn;t osund like he has hit his bottom yet. It may be years down the line. It may be never. He may very well die. do your baby a favor. You take care of you and the baby and get him out of your life and your childs life. Or you will go through hell I promise it will only get worse before it gets bette. Id that the kind of life yo want for your child? I hope not. You have to make your own choices now I pray the Lord give you the strength and courage to do whats best for you and the baby. Best of luck to you. I will pray for you and him. God bless 
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there is no sure way
there's all ways hope but no guarantees u need to let him be accountable 4 his actions he needs 2 hit rock bottom, go 2 jail what ever the drug runs his life its more important than any thing else more than you, mom, dad every thing he'll only quit when being strait is more important he needs 2 hit rock bottom put him in jail if u can I've put my son in 3 times and now hes has a 4th pending all 4 stealing from from his own family about $20,000.00 not a type o its just brakes my heart i pray 4 the day he gets clean and stays clean and i get my son back. they lie cheat steel anything 4 a fix it runs his life move on if u must force his hand he'll drag you down with him (tough love) my son been using about a year and hes up 2 about $100.00 a day that's $700.00 a weeks need a good job 4 that much cash just 2 piss away and my son isn't a big time user yet or u can keep asking others4 a simple fix your choice good luck
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All I can say is try Alanon
Good luck to you and your baby.
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You are a perfect example of why there is Alanon. As already stated no one can get him to change. Unfortunately most heroin addicts bottoms are 6 feet under. Even jails and institutions cannot stop him from using if he is not ready to stop. And recovery takes time which most people will not commit to.
Now that your pregnant would be the time to get out of this relationship. Why bring this on another person. I would get my behind into treatment because whether you believe it or not you do have a part in this. People with healthy self esteem would not have choosen this type of person to be with or stayed once they found out. Once you work on you, you will attract the right kind of guy, until then losers will be able to seek you out in a crowded room. Somewhere in your life you have been put down to a place you do not believe in yourself and as we say in Alanon your picker is broken. Get out of this now. If he gets into recovery for a year and you still want him then fine, but I guarantee you if you work on your part you will probably will find what you think was love isn't and not want him anyway.
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tinkerm was harsh
and right to be so your switching seats on the titanic, its going down, it will tack you with it if your still on it you need to get off that boat your leaving might be what it take to push him over the edge and get help if not get out move on with your life you cant coddle him that wont help when the want to get better out weighs the want to use then he'll seek help i know its sad and hurts like hell but you cant fix it its all up to him
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Once again, ibogaine hydrocholride. I won't explain, just google it. For the time being I would not accept any contact with him. Go to Alanon. Do whatever you are doing to keep yourself sane and happy. If he has shown time and time again that he only builds enough trust just to have a place to stay and use do NOT LET HIM NEAR YOU. The last option, that I know of medically, is ibogaine. If that does not help him then he is a lost cause. Some people just like tinker toys too much and cannot grow up. A wild animal would most likely have died already due to lack of food and water... Although I disagree that addiction is some kind of "disease" I believe there is some kind of underlying physical/mental reason why his body would keep using such a potent narcotic. I was and have been able to stay straight with Suboxone and a therapist. HA/NA only made me use more. It is different for everyone and really is a problem. I wonder sometimes if the USA should start to consider prescription heroin like Switzerland has done. Guess what... The people there actually like the plan. But this is a topic on its own right. Ibogaine hcl may help...
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