Heroin Addiction & Recovery Support Group

I have a 41 year old nephew and my sister (his mother) who live next door to me. I actually live above her garage where mom and dad had lived. My husband passed away in 2001 from lung cancer and I sold the home in New Hampshire and moved back to CT and into the apartment. Right after I moved and landed a job, in my nephew started asking to borrow money. I trusted him and lent him the money which he paid back. It got to the point that he was borrowing more than I could afford. He was being paid more than twice what I was earning and borrowing money from me. Two years later, he was stealing from my home, pawned my wedding ring and another priceless heirloom and who know how much else of my jewelry. I mentioned missing items to his mother who never got back to me about it. It all came to a head when my sister and I returned from our cruise in February to find that he had moved my new locked car to get the smashed up car out of the garage and go get his heroin. My sister new and did not tell me that he was a heroin addict. My apartment was never locked. Even if it was, they had the key. One night I was taking my dog out at 9:30 in late Feb. I got to the woods and looked up to see him coming out of my apartment. I spoke to him and he ran. I had to get the dog back in the house. Once there, I noticed that my pocketbook was no longer where I kept it. I went down to my sister's door. He denied it. He has done unspeakable things to me and called me every name in the book. Has convinced his mother that his sister (another addict) stole my pocketbook. They forget I saw him. I have a brother and sister in law that live about 45 minutes away and they are very supportive, but I feel very violated and I am damn mad that no one is willing to own up to what they have done, even after going to rehab, etc. It's been months. I don't know how to forgive him this time.
Posted on 10/16/09, 08:10 pm