What is Heroin Addiction
Heroin or diacetylmorphine (INN) is a semi-synthetic opioid. It is the 3,6-diacetyl derivative of morphine (hence diacetylmorphine) and is synthesised from it by acetylation. The w...
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I have been battling with my boyfriend of 4 years of this horrible addiction. This is something I have been fighting for probably a year and a half now. Although it may not sound long, it feels like a century. He went to his Grandma's to clean on July 4th. He had to go there while he was high, unless he would refuse to go. As he was there he got sick more than I have ever seen in my life. Eventually, he had to be rushed to the emergency room since he was unable to keep anything down and he was severely dehydrated. When we took him there, they gave him medicine to keep him from getting sick and a pain pill for his stomach cramping. Also 2 bags of fluids. He had kidney damage (uncertain of whether it was caused by his addiction or dehydration). Luckily, it was reversible. After he was hospitalized, it was much easier for him to go through the withdrawal. He was on the suboxones months before, but the only reason he did the suboxone was so he would not get sick. If he had the money though, he would go out and get high. After all that he went through and the pain I seen him in, I thought heroin was waaaay in our past. A couple weeks after 4th of July (and him being clean) I found out I was pregnant. More of a reason for him to stay clean right? The other day he had my car and I went to his work to grab something out of my car. I found a needle and a spoon. Immediately he denied it, but eventually admitted it. He said, "It's a feeling I have never felt before. I'm only doing it once a week, so I found a happy medium where I would not be addicted or sick, but I wouldn't be without either." He also said, "Never doing it again, would be like never having sex again." At that moment I felt sick, and disgusted. He agreed to go to meetings and I agreed to go with him. I believe being a support system for him will help, but it hasn't so far. What other options do I have? I know it depends on him, and I don't think he is doing it on a daily basis. I've been with him while he was doing it on a daily basis and the times I had suspicions he was on it, I was correct (which really was only about once a week). Should I stay here with him, once again, and help him through this? Or should I show him tough love?
Before answering that I would like to let you know that his mom did kick him out (since we are living with her for financial reasons because of the unsuspected pregnancy) and I am still living here. He is staying with a friend and she is not going to let him back in until he shows progress, and desire to want to change and quit. He says its cravings that he mentally has. Please someone help! How did you deal with your cravings and how can I get this all to stop so my baby can have a father in his life?! Posted on 08/27/09, 07:08 pm |
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that my dear the whole spoon and needle thing,he is on the slippery slope, that is if he is not lying to u already about how much he is doing.there is no casual shooting dope,i highly doubt that he is only using once a week.if he is living with a friend then u dont see what he does there,as for the car drop his ass off at work because i guarantee at some point during the day prob in the morning he is copping. let him walk to wherever he has to go to get the drugs.he has got a seriously long road ahead, and its not about choosing whether or not he loves u enough and the unborn baby to stop,im sure he loves you.But once that child comes into the world either he gets long term help or that child is going to suffer not to mention you honey,i dealt with the same thing i loved the person that i was with so much that i started using because i couldnt make him stop because he didnt want to.its better to not have him present at all than to have him be unpredictable,disappear for chunks of time, then have him showing up wanting to see the baby probably high all the while denying it because that is what addicts do even if its painfully obvious.His mom sounds cool so u have some support,and sounds like she stands her ground with him.I think you need to as well because now there is someone else to worry about,and he is only going to get better if he wants to.as far as the cravings go they will probably ALWAYS be there its just what you choose to do with them.lots of luck honey,dont let yourself b manipulated, you are super young and have your whole life ahead of you.lots of love etta3 
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ps when he says never doing again would be like not ever having sex again?he is definitely not ready to give it up
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Sorry to hear, as a Heroin addict myself, its so hard to stay clean. A few years back I put myself into a medical detox, then a six month program and lived in sober living for 2 1/2 years all this time I was clean. I started back up with pills and end up back to my drug of choice which is Herion I have been on this on and off again roller coaster for a godo year and a half. I have all the best intentins as should he, your baby. But Heroin is the devil. I feel for you unless he just is determinded to quit which can be done and may I say those years I was clean, never felt better, my relationships with my family, just having a clear head. The battle is long and hard and takes so much strength. About the needle and spoon, I am sure you didn't buy that story and the once a week, yah maybe for a few weeks but it always keeps rolling. I am also on Suboxone, thedrug realy does work but you also have to have the idea in your head you want to be clean. I am going thru a hard time myself and I know what he is going thru, no picnic, eventually you will need to make a choice, if you want to call it tough love call it what you will, the drug will take you down and everyone you care about along with you. Good Luck. FAITH
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great advice from everyone. Ive been with partner 5yrs n have 3 children. When i found out my boy was 6mths old and i was 3mths pregnant. Hes been using on/off for 15yrs, and detoxed at home and in clinics but failed every time. This last detox lasted 4 days, and although it was the most painful decision in my life, asked him to leave until he was ready to have his naltrexone implant. if he had survived another 3 days he couldve had the implant. I also completely understand what hes going through, so im not angry with him. But i am very angry with heroin. Medically its affecting me in so many ways, but my hope has finally gone. I miss him so badly but it has to be this way. Ive suffered so much and i cant let my children suffer like i have. I have never felt such heart ache since hes been gone but i had no choice.
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Well there really is no easy way with this addiction. He has to want it and not even a child will make him stop. It didn't for me. I have 2 daughters I haven't seen in years because I chose the drug over everything. You are powerless over it and it always wins. Until he admits he needs help and that he cant do it alone, he will continue to lie and become deeper into his denial. You being there unfortunately isn't enough. you need to take care of yourself first. All you can really do is pray for him and so will I .
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