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Ok, most here at one point or another has or had a bff of the opposite sex.
I am having a big problem. My friend is my neighbor and we grew up together, we are friends and thats it. The problem is that everyone else around the place seems to think otherwise. Here is the issue, I have been down this road before. Several times. For some reason, I tend to make friends with women easier than with guys. I always find myself on the defense. Do I tell these people to fly to fk, or do I protect myself by breaking off the friendship? I cannot believe I am even considering this. The way I see it, there are two options. Leave it all alone and let everyone around think me and my friend is a slut, or just cut all connections, and let everything go back to normal. ugggggg. Fking loose, loose situation. Either way, I loose. Posted on 11/07/09, 01:11 pm |
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Keep your friend, tell everyone else to fuck off.
Would you really give up your friendship of all these years because other people are nosy and morons who cannot accept the truth? 
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I agree with Mopri you cant let what others think or say dictate what you do...you need to do what makes you happy. If you value your friendship there is no need to end it...HUgs karen
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I've got a few male friends, and unfortunately there's also a few idiots who just have to make the wrong assumptions.
The funny thing is, it often seems to be the most unattractive people who are the worst for having one-track minds .................. has anyone else ever noticed that? If anyone asks me I just tell them that someone is just a friend, we always skip the sex and go straight for the pizza. If you can make them laugh that usually goes a long way towards defusing things.
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Apart from yourself the only person whose opinion should matter regard to this is your partner (that is if you have a steady relationship at this moment), who deserves an explanation about the type of relationship you have with your friend and should be happy to accept that it is just friendship.
It is up to your friend to explain your friendship to her partner (again if she has one). As for other morons who are making comments about the appropriateness of your friendship you should tell them to fuck off, if they are closed minded assholes that is their problem.
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Why would you even care what other people thought?Is it that important?A friend weather it is a fucking friend or just a friend people are going to talk either way so if I where you I would go for the gusto!
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The problem with telling narrow-minded morons to f*** off is that they're usually the same morons you have to keep getting on with day-to-day in the community.
I've got very little patience for idiots myself but sometimes it's wiser to not make enemies out of them. Not saying you have to give up a friendship on that account, just saying it's probably a better idea to handle things amicably and with a bit of humour. (In other words, tell them *nicely* to fuck off and mind their own business ;)
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I would basically ignore them, it's really none of their business anyway. And really, why does it matter to them what you do or do not do anyway? Maybe I am missing something here?
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My best friend is a girl 7 over the years MANY people have asked, pushed or suggested.
the truth is, there are just some people you shouldn't sleep with. even the stupidest of people seem to get that.
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Thank you everyone. I made my mind up on this one. I am leaving everything as it is. My friend never done anything wrong, and I won't end anything because some people around my area can't keep their mouths shut. I know the difference and that is the only thing that matters.
As for them . . . . well, whatever . . . .
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Keep your friendship! Keep defending her honor, thats what friends do! If no one else can understand your plutonic relationship, then they arent real friends! Wouldnt you rather keep your best friend, then have a whole bunch of people who are just people?
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