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How Do I Make Him Do Foreplay?
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So, here's the deal.
My fiancee and I have been together for just shy of four years. We have a two month old daughter who shares our room, and my sister rents the room right next to ours. Sex has dwindled. The thing is, I would have sex more often if my fiancee would do foreplay! His idea of getting me in the mood is pinching my ass then grabbing my crotch and we should be ready to go. I tried to tell him that that's not working for me, and he got mad. He said it takes to long to 'warm me up'! It's like he doesn't want to do the work to get the reward. So I have basically cut him off from the reward. It's not working as well as planned. You always hear those stories about how men will do anything do get it again....not mine. Instead he gets nasty. He whines to anyone who will listen that he's not getting laid and he makes cracks about going and getting it elsewhere! How the hell do I get him to partake in foreplay?? He's okay if I do things to him, just not vice versa. I want sex to be good for me, and sometimes I need to be eased into it. No wham bam thank you mam! Posted on 11/04/09, 01:11 pm |
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Rather than simply withholding, I think you need to have a bit of straight talking with him and let him know that you need a little more effort at foreplay.
I think some men just get lazy about things when they start to feel too comfortable in the relationship ...................... my ex-husband got to the point where he'd be pretty much the same, just a crude grab at my tits or my pussy, and I'd feel like screaming at him to leave me alone. Not good. 
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I would be tempted to say the same as he is saying to you (about getting it somewhere else) I'm sure you could find someone who would be more than happy to give you some foreplay. That's not the best advice I'm sure but it makes me angry when guys could care less about making their lady feel how she's supposed to feel. We all need some release.
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like Jeff Foxworthy says "woman are like diesel engins, once they're properly warmed up...they can go all night".
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I got to the part about the daughter sharing the room with you and shook my head "no!" I would not even want to have sex at all, much less "good" sex, with a kid of any age in the same room.
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Bcas, that is so true.
I just want to say that my h used to do the same kinda thing to me. He would grab my breast. And be like ok lets go! Finally i told him if thats all u got .I dont want it. We ended up talkin about it. He's way better about it now. IDK that i would be wantin 2 get in on with my kid in the room either.
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we have talked about it..alot. he doesn't seem to care if im warmed up or not. i find myself dreading him even touching me because its going to be a crude grab and then a fight when i say no. i dont know what else to say to him...im tired of him yelling about how he has needs but never listening when i try to tell him i have needs too!
and my daughter is only 2 months, and due to space limitations she has no where else to sleep. But the bedroom isn't the only place for sex...my sister spends alot of nights at her boyfriends.
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I simply am not able to understand this guy I mean:
How can he be so insensitive? How can he not want to give you the foreplay for you? How can he not want to do the foreplay for him? Where does he get off getting pissed off at you for suggesting it? I mean for me the foreplay is vital for me as well as for her a full session may start with a maasage, then some heavy petting and kissing than sucking her neck and sucking her nipples, then move towards sucking in the whole breast, then give head, then start full intercourse normally at least 2 or 3 positions. Your guy definately seems to be short changing you.
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TELL HIM THIS WHEN HE GETS ANGRY @ YOU, " I LOVE HAVING SEX W/ YOU!!! BUT WHEN I DON'T GET ENOUGH FOREPLAY FROM YOU, I FEEL LIKE LIKE YOU'RE JUST WANTING TO FUCK ME INSTEAD OF MAKING LOVE TO ME!!!" OR WORDS TO THAT EFFECT. MAKE IT ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL & NOT ABOUT HIM. LET US KNOW HOW IT WORKS OUT. HOPE THIS HELPS, RIP.
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not to be rude or anything but i dont think anyone should be making anyone do anything. now maby encouraging him to do it.
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encouragment has been attempted and failed many many many many times. its time for something for severe and forceful. i dont know...maybe i should buy him a book or something...lol
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