Healthy Sex Support Group

Hi! Welcome to the group!!

I am over-weight... I find sex and using my toys very enjoyable. It could be that she is self-conscious that she has gain weight; especially if she was use to being small. It could be that her hips are hurting and sex is very painful. Try having sex in different positions that would be less stressful on the hips and not as painful. It might make her more comfortable if she is wearing some pretty lingerie while making love. Another thing.. try turning out the lights and lighting a few candles; that too might help to make her feel less self-conscious of her weight. I would let her know how much you love her... no matter her size. I would keep reasuring her that her body is beautiful the way it is. Also try putting a pillow under her bottom...that might help to make her more comfortable.

If I can think of anything else I will add to this later.

Good luck to you. I hope this helps.

Lisa

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Not sure on the sensitive part. But I know it can make her arthritis worse.

I forgot to mention that she has had both hips replaced and the pain is all gone. She just has to keep working on get her range of motion back, she is almost back to where she was before the arthritis. I tell her that I love her more than she'll ever know and I tell her that she is still beautiful to me and that she still turns me on. I do the candles but she prefers the dark right now.

It definitely sounds to me as though she's feeling self-conscious rather than a physical reason why she's somehow losing sensitivity.

The most powerful sex organ being the brain and all that ....................... it can work for better or worse, if someone's feeling awkward about sex for whatever reason.

Man, I have found larger girls to be more sensitive if anything sexually....so yeah. I think its a mental thing probably.

try doing foreplay like kissing her neck softly licking her tits ,sucking ect . going down on her it will make her more aroused and want sex more often, and also rent a movie that has sexual content in it, it will make her want to have sex as it does for me.

That used to work, now its no go. Images of affair are at work right now I guess. I need to give her time ( advice from a couple of ladies I believe know what they are talking about.

Affair? I don't remember you mentioned an affair......

Sorry 'B', I try to look at all of a members groups to get a little more insight before I reply. But yes there was an affair about 14 months ago.