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I caught my husband masterbating when we hadnt had sex in 3 days. Apparently i have to tell him when i want it, he doesnt feel free to tell me although he can anytime at least ask!
Im hurt by it to be honest, i wonder why i dont feel wanted sexually by my husband and then i caught him. Ya know? Anyone would feel betrayed i think, cause in bed he doesnt seem inthused. It hurts majorly inside, i am nearly a nymphomaniac. And now hes messed around a lil bit with a younger chick and i dont want sex now cause he hurt me! VICIOUS CYCLE! Posted on 10/11/09, 02:10 pm |
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everyone masturbates 
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Sorry honey, but get a grip! Love and sex are not the same thing, and love and masturbation are definitely not the same thing. As far as his messing around on you - you need to figure out if you can forgive him or not. If not, then it's time to move on from him. If yes, then move on with him - and start having sex again!
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I see why you would be hurt and obviously schocked..But if he is, and has been with other women...the answer is not easy but simple..and a must, if you want to keep your sanity intact. GET RID OFF HIM!!
They do not change..and trying to get them to will kill you inside and eat you up...not worth it. Take it from me I KNOW.
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The masturbation issue is I am sorry trivial. Everyone masturbates and as long as he isnt replacing you totally with self gratification then I honestly dont see an issue but if it does bother you ask if you can wstch sometime and see where that takes you.
As far as the cheating goes. I happen to believe once a fucking cheater good chance always a fucking cheater and you need to decide right now if you can live with it or not. Plenty of people can but if you cant then as hard as it is its time to cut the ties as dragging it out just makes it harder. Best of luck
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I had a similar issue in a past relationship. I found him masterbating quite a few times in front of the computer ( looking at women). I didn't think it was abnormal, but found his shame and refusal to discuss it odd. I also found it odd that I was rarely getting any. I was seeing a therapist. He suggested that my boyfriend at the time had an internet pornography addiction. He said that my boyfriend had probably spent his sexual energy and also was ashamed; hence the lack of intimacy between us. Have you considered sex addiction?
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I am so sorry and I would be just as hurt as you are..have you talked to him?
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