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Separating the facts from the myths of anal sex
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My guy wants to do anal.
He has done it before in past relationships. I have not. I decided it wouldn't hurt to at least give it a try. I have read SO many different things about it! I have read that it can be really enjoyable, I have read that it can hurt like hell, I have read that there is no harm in it and I have read that you can get anal cancer from it. What is the truth? Posted on 09/16/09, 05:09 pm |
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It can hurt like hell if the person doesn't know what he is doing.
It is very enjoyable if there is complete trust and great communication. I have never heard about the cancer part but if the person isn't careful I am sure it can be dangerous. That is why I would be very leary doing it with him... beings he likes to be so rough. In my opinion I would wait until you are comfortable with the relationship and really trust that he would be gentle with you while doing it. 
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I plan on taking it real slow.
Two days ago he inserted a finger and it didn't hurt. It wasn't good and it wasn't bad. I do realize that a finger is much smaller than an erect penis. LOL! Well a little bit anyway! The day after he says "I am so gonna slam that ass" I was like "No you aren't" I told him it had to be real slow and easy, so as not to tear any tissue, He said "Well yeah at first" He is just throwing away his chance isn't he and he doesn't even seem to realize it!
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My advice? Don't do it, or at least not with this guy.
Like Lisa's said, it works if you have enough trust and communication going on. But judging by all your other posts, you two have a long way to go before you'll be at that point.
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OK, he can't be slammin your ass, you'll get tears and injuries for sure. You have to control the encounter. It's not a porn movie for crissakes.
BTW, what can result in anal cancer is an HPV infection of the area. Not a guarantee of it, but it is one cause.
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Thanks everyone, I may very well have to nip this in the butt (no pun intended)
Because, he just said it again. "I am gonna slam that ass this weekend" I said "no you aren't" To be honest I cannot tell if he is joking or not. I think we need to have a serious talk.
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Anal can be alot of fun with the right person. if he wants to do it just for him then don't do it. If he wants to do it for both of you then please do it. My wife has very hard orgasms from anal. Go slow, lots of lube and have a safe word that means stop now!
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If you do decide to try it you should be the one on top so you can be in control. Let him know beforehand that there is not going to be any slamming. Use plenty of lube and take it slow. If he tries to get too rough you should stop right then and tell him that never again will you try this.
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..........the piles up my ass just won't allow anal sex......
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