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My bf and i just celebrated our eight month aniversary. And we are both poor college students so i bought us chocolate milk and cinnimon buns to celebrate. Earlier today i found out that i would need to have a second MRI on my head due to a very severe concussion that i had five weeks ago. I told him about this, and he was too busy with his 2k10, which i bought him, to really listen or care. Then i went to work he stopped by and i told him that this was serious. So he got all nervous and didn't want to talk about it. So after work at his room, he wouldn't stop fooling around, and i wasn't in the mood at all(cause i was exhausted from the barn and work, plus the bad news from the doctor didn't help), but he wouldn't stop. Once he finally did, only after i let him kiss me "down there". Then his roommate told me about how he had disclosed very intamate details about our sex life to him, and not in a way that flattered me, at all. So i got mad and wanted to talk about it. And all he did was bawl his eyes out and tell me how sorry he was and how he didn't think he deserved to live. This got me scared so i tried to make him feel better. Now i found out that he is going home for the weekend because it is the one year anniversary of his friend's death. I thought i could be there for him, apparently he thought different.
So what do i do to make this whole mess work out and keep us both happy? Posted on 11/06/09, 01:11 am |
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and i forgot to mention that he considered his anniversary gift to me to be trying to have sex with me, and that earlier he pretended to be mad at me, cause he thought it would get me to stop trying to pop a zit, instead of just saying, "stop"
I'm just getting frustrated cause i feel like i'm dating a five year old in a 19 year old's body 
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I don't know but perhaps he isn't mature enough to handle the situation you are going through and that is why he is acting the way he is. Not that I find that to be an excuse for him but maybe he just simply does not know how to deal with the stress of you having to go through the MRI procedure and what the results will be.
You can't really change him or how he is right now because I feel that he will have to grow up some more and I think that will come in time however you can express again how you are feeling and what kind of support you need from him right now. He might be able to tone it down and focus more on what you are going through but in the mean time you need to take care of yourself and maybe spend more time around people who can be a good support system for you. Mind you I am not saying you need to break up with him but I am saying for right now you have to put yourself first and he is going to have to work out his fears and stresses on his own. Right now the most important thing is that you get through your ordeal and take care of your health the rest can all be taken care of at a later date. My advice would be to call friends or family and people who can help and support you through this difficult time. Hoping that everything works out and you will have much happier days with good health very soon. Best wishes to you:)
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Sounds like he is either too immature or too scared to deal with your situation.
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