Healthy Relationships Support Group

If you are referring to a long distance relationship, I have never been in one myself. However, I would think you would trust someone by knowing they have trust in you, whether it be 3000 miles away or right next door.

-Sean.

I agree with #1. It is a matter of having that trust to begin with. Otherwise best to go the "friends" route and live your life.

I agree with the wisdom of the above two replies. How do you trust someone who is in the same town?

What has caused this concern of trust?

Sincerely,

OldChurchGuy

if you didn't know the person before they moved 3000 miles away... good luck with that..

I have been in love with this man for 12 years, but it is ot until the last couple of months that he has realized what has been right in front of him. Unfortunately, he lives in Seattle and me back in Mississippi. I have trust issues in general. I was in a relationship for over 6 years and it just fell apart. And recently I just got divorced from someone I was with for 5 years. I feel like this relationship is going to work out because I think my feelings for this guy have disrupted my previous relationships. We just need to get in the same state again.

Loving someone is giving them the ability to hurt you, but trusting them enough not to. Long distance relationships can work, but it's a big effort from both people. Especially if you know him, then that should make it a little easier to trust him. But in a long distance relationship, both people have to be completely committed and put forth an effort to make the relationship work. A lot of it is about communication and building that trust. If you do a Google search for "long distance relationships" there is are really great sites that can provide a lot of help in this type of situation.