Healthy Relationships Support Group

Not sure what you're asking. Do you want to know if all of our relationships have been messy?

That depends on how you classify unhealthy and messy. Those are pretty broad terms.

I guess you need to ask yourself, what are you going to do about this information?

I think you'll find that whoever loves the most HURTS the most, because the love (in the same quantity) is unreturned.

There's a fine art in attach and then detach. It's tough to learn, but I'm doing my best! It requires placing your love in a higher source when love over here seems scarce.

I have kind of found that I would love way too quickly and hope too much, maybe that I was afraid of being alone, becoming codependent. I am trying to fix this.

Sorry i clarify. I've recently read the book "Women who love too much" and have found out that alot of those case studies had certain points that are asscoicated to me.
For example i go for the worst type of guys. The ones that are unkind, treat me bad and are selfish. I cant seem to for the "right" guys as i consider them boring and not worth my time.
I wonder if other people feel like this?

Sadly the book isn't about "loving too much". As in, simply "loving less" isn't going to fix the problems named in this book. Sort of misleading, don't you think?

I guess the title reflects what many people say in that situation, "but I love him".

No, it's not really about loving too much, as such, but more about learning to love respect and value yourself. It's quite a powerful book and does help many people (men and women) to move towards wholeness in themselves and their relationships.

07olivia, stick with the book and consider counselling. It could help you translate the realisations of what's been going wrong into changes to help you grow.

Good luck.