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This may be a bit long winded but i'm desperate for some advice. I have loved my partner for many years but we have been together for 21/2. Before we were together his ex had cheated on him. We had been together for 3 months when he decided to beat up the fella she slept with. I was heart broken, why did he need to do that when we were together? I was left feeling like he wasn't over her. I felt used. I stayed with him cause he promised he loved me and we were going to have a great life together. I stood by him through his trial which caused me massive amounts of stress as by then we were living together. I also stayed with him through his prison sentence. I truelly beleived that when he came home myself my daughter and my partner would live happily. Well he is home and i am desperatly unhappy. I still struggle to feel that he loves me, he is a good guy all round, he pays the bills and is great with my little girl but there is something seriously missing. I look at him and feel so in love but so un loved. I've told him all about it and he promises to try to make me feel loved but then he just carries on as if everything is fine. he has never said sorry about the hurt he caused me and he has never thanked me for standing by him. He has so much effort for everyone except me. He is not interseted in me at all. A few times i've got all dressed up and come down to him and he hasn't even looked up. Am i being taken for a mug? Should I have listened to myself when I thought "How can he love me when he is beating up a guy connected to his flippin ex" ( I have to point out it was compltley out of character for him!) Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted on 11/05/09, 08:11 am |
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Love God. He loves you back. And exercise. It's the best form of self-love there is, and it honors the temple (your body) that God gave you.
After I work out, I always feel loving and loved. There's this warm, wonderful endorphin rush that overtakes me, and I embrace it. Helps me sleep too. Maybe it will for you too-! 
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Phew! Can you forgive him for what he did? Have you specifically told him what you are looking for? For example "I feel loved when you recognized I've gotten all dressed up for you." Be very specific in what you are looking for to feel loved. It sounds like you are both trying so why not go a level deeper with forgiveness and loving actions?
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