Head and Neck cancers Support Group

Hi jen, i'm Nita. i'm so sorry about the loss of your mom. my mom has been passed for almost 12 yrs and i still miss her terribly some days.it's normal for you to feel the way you feel. have you considered a little therapy to help you deal with your grief? i did and it really helped me.
my fiance' has throat cancer. we are just beginning the treatment process. i mainly wanted to address you missing your mom. *hugs* and much sympathy to you, jen.

My father passed from throat cancer in 95. My mother died of lung cancer in 98. More from the treatment then the cancer itself.I myself got cancer a year later.

My mother and I were best friends and I was her primary caregiver. I always miss her, everyday,all the time. It took me over a year before I even trully grieved and let it out. My mother was the same age as yours, 59. Seems so young doesnt it? I felt like an orphan. I do understand.

People kind of look at you funny when you say, at 38, I was the same age as you, I feel so abandoned, like an orphan. lol. but that is what I felt like. I still do. It has gotten better and I do have great memories but its one day at a time. I did have some counseling, as I had a ton of issues going on. Grief has stages. There is nothing saying grief doesnt totally go away.

So what I am saying is, your not alone in how you feel. You are normal in how you feel. And it is perfectly ok to how you feel. Just let yourself feel and you will be fine. dont block it nor let anyone tell you how to deal with it differently. We each are individuals in this arena and we have to deal with it best we each can. There is nothing wrong with that, not one thing.