What is Head and Neck cancers
Head and neck cancers are malignant growths originating in the lip and oral cavity (mouth), nasal cavity, pharynx, larynx, thyroid, paranasal sinuses, salivary glands and cervical ...
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Hi everyone,
My Dad was diagnosed with throat cancer while i was on holiday and he told me the day i got back. That was 5 weeks ago now, i was and am still am absolutley heart broken, my dad is a top bloke. Everyone my dad has ever known to get cancer has died and i can tell from the way he speaks that he thinks he is going to die. Everytime he has been to the hospital he seems to have yet more bad news. When they did his first scans they said that it could be operated on, after more scans they then said he would have to have chemo before they could operate and now they are saying they will never be able to operate and can only have chemo. They have also said now that it has spread to his shoulders. Everytime he goes its like another kick in the bollocks for him!! They have no said he has to have more tests to see if his kidneys are functioning well enough for him to have chemo. Its just so frustrating, he found out over 5 weeks ago and it seems like nothing is getting done. My biggest problem is how to deal with dad, im a great believer that the mind can overcome anything when you think positively but how can i get my dad to stay positive when his only experience with friends and family who have had cancer is death? Im trying to get him to carry on as normal and carry on doing what he enjoys and have tried to be normal around him but is that what he needs? I dont want him to think i am ignoring it or am in denial. I dont want to say the wrong thing and get him upset, i just dont know whether im handling it right. id be really grateful of some advice, how can i help and support my dad? What should i say, what should i do. I love my dad so much and just want to do something, i feel so useless. Posted on 08/04/08, 02:08 pm |
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My husband has throat cancer and also a heart transplant. He is receiving radiation and an Erbitux drip. It's beating him up pretty badly, however, the treatments seem to be working.
Support groups have been tremendous as have talking to survivors - there are a lot out there. If your dad can find someone he can relate to, it makes a huge difference. It takes time and patience, but the right person is out there. Also if he reads, there's a book called Cancer on 5 dollars a day. It takes a humorous look at everything patients go thru. 
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