HPV Support Group

You know, I can't tell you much about living with this since I had a fairly recent diagnosis just like you. What i can give you is a point of view from a 23 year old man who has been in love before.

First of all, relax, you're a human being just like the rest of us and you shouldn't treat yourself any different. If you're boyfriend says he still loves you and wants to be with you he probably means it. If a girl I was truly in love with had any sort of complications, sexual or not, I would be by her side to see them through. it's not about wanting sex, affection, attention or anything like that, it's about needing to love and be loved by this particular person

This virus is not as big of a deal as you think it is when you're first diagnosed. When I first found out, I almost passed out in the doctors office hahaha. Now that I've done a fair amount of reading and better understand the virus it is more of a waiting game for me. Before I ever had the virus I was active in the gym, 4-5 days of lifting and cardio a week, and I still am with no plans on stopping anytime soon. My last relationship(3 years) ended right before I knew about this but I can tell you I definitely plan on loving and being loved again.

Keep your head up and focus on becoming stronger, mentally and physically, and a better person overall. You never can never truly appreciate the highs of life until you understand the lows.

@smurf12

No sane person would choose to have genital warts; HPV. You simply were unlucky; like the rest of us. So, don't call yourself names because of something unfortunate that has happened to you against your wishes.

As far as your relationship goes; if your boyfriend is a full grown man, he can make his own decisions. I am all about full disclosure to sexual partners. Some are of the mind frame that they are under no obligation to inform people about their HPV. I strongly disagree. If you tell him and you are both sure that you understand the risks and the possible outcomes of having a sexual relationship with each other, there is no reason for you to feel guilty after that point because it will be HIS decision to be with you. You will not feel as if you tricked him into ruining his life or something.

Relax. You will be okay.

I really hope that your Fiance doesn't want to duck out on you because of this virus. Hopefully, he has character and a sense of deep love for you. I tell you...HPV really tests the fabric of those who are in your life. I had this girl who was madly, madly in love with me...and she just left JUST LIKE THAT (snaps fingers). I felt like a steaming pile of crap.

* I am currently trying to psyche myself up for the reality of my possibly being alone for the rest of my life. Sure, there are others out there with HPV that I can hook up wth, but from what I see...it's hard for anyone to want to advertise themselves as having HPV.

He probably has is too and just doesn't know it yet. Unless he gets warts he never will.

aaaaah. senorita. you will be fine! now if he said yes hes still up to being with you then eff it. take his word. out of curiosity. did you cheat on him? sorry if i sound like an ass.. but if the answer is yes. then thats what you should be worried about. also for all you know. how do you know you didnt get it from him? theres a lot of people here in this forum that have had it for a long time and it never shows, but their partner showed all other side effects. read some of the very similar posts in this forum. also, consider yourself lucky he made a good choice and hes still by your side.
and what bigguy2 said. hes right. i know right now you wont see it the way we're telling you, but you will..

@norisse1 ive read some of your previous post. you kind of keep mentioning your situation. i see that it hurt you a lot. i was in an 8 year relationship, the 8th year, when i found out. one thing you have to get through your head. just because we have this virus doesnt make us less of a person. dude! i bet that shit hurt when she left. i know the feeling.worst feeling was when i passed on to her. consider yourself lucky you dodged that bullet. im 25 and ima say this and sound like an asshole. fuck that chick! quote: if this girl couldnt handle you at your worst. she sure as hell doesnt deserve you at your best. im serious man. you are no less of a freaking person. get your life back on track and show this dummy what she missed out on. the next one that will take you for all your flaws. you give that girl everything.

Smurf if you read this discussion you will find a variety of people with a variety of experiences. A great book for women with a not so great title, mind you, is "Damaged Goods" this is a book that talks about the experiences of 44 women with either a form of HPV (cervical or genital warts) or both types and/or herpes. It is about digesting the information about having a chronic disease, how it makes us feel, and how people start to learn to live with it.

I am going to sound like whatever when I say that more than half of sexually active people will get a form of HPV. I hate to sound extreme, this is skin to skin. So technically you don't have to even have sex. You can get it the first time you have sex. You can carry it for years. Your boyfriend may already have it. He may have given it to you. See--unless you are a virgin with no experience what so ever it would be tough to pinpoint who gave it to whom.

You are not a whore. You are not damaged goods. You are a person and you deserve love. Ask your doctor what the safest sex for you is. Female condoms supposably offer the better coverage. Oral sex with a condom or a dental dam. Good hand washing. As for baby your OB will monitor your condition (overall--not just HPV) and help you have a safe delivery.

If you have a c-section, no worries--vaginal birth is overrated --someone who has had 4 can promise you that--you get a baby either way.

@norisse1

You are not going to be single for the rest of your life! I'll bet you my life savings which is currently only about $17 :0. I agree with @sekclos when said eff that girl! Not all girls in this world are that shallow!

And to the girl who wrote the post, your fiancé almost certainly has it also, from what I hear. And if you read up on it, he can't say whether you gave it to him or vice versa. Work on getting over it together and consider yourself so so so lucky that you have someone to love by your side as you go through this!

A long while back, in 2004, I had a pap while pregnant, and it showed for the higher risk of HPV. I almost passed out!, I had the colposcopy done, I had the biopsy done, it was a quick but terrible pinch but was done fast. Anyways, they got the results from this high risk, and the following pap came back fine. I DO NOT know why but was relieved. I was checked more often, as in paps, and well all the next 3 or 4 were negative. :D happy and relieved, but did not know this stuck with you forever, but still was thinking about it. Even in 2010 I had a pap and it was negative, got my mirena out that day as well.
And so now, my recent 7-5-2012 pap came back abnormal. Freaking slightly, going in for this recent pap, he said cervix looked just fine, as what it was supposed to look like, and yet I get a paper stating I have the moderate to high risk dysplasia?
I talked to a doctor, who does the LEEP procedure many times a week, says it's very successful. I never thought in my life I would have to worry about or monitor myself like this. I have only had 2 partners since 2006. I dont ever want to give up who I have now, but I have yet to tell him of what I am going thru. No deep details. Not sure how to start conversation. I know I am not the only one worried or has ever had to think of this, but I just wanted to be happy, I just wanted a new adventure in life and I found him, things are supposed to be better, they feel better, I can't get enuf of him, and then this old news creeps right back up and now I am so worried, but I have been informed by another doctor I really shouldn't be so worried about this.
The LEEP procedure I read was a little *loop* that gets rid of the potential naughty cells, I think a small burn or electric, I am thinking thats where the burn comes from.
You get a local *up there* (yeah i know but..) and its quick. To heal, you need 4 weeks, no sex, and yes I asked the ever so personal question, clitoral stimulation, but no insertion of anything. Yikes. Sorry for that but I am being honest and just sayin the facts :)
All I hope is that this doesn't keep popping up and popping up and I can get regular paps for quite a long long long time. I have enuf to worry about. I dont ever plan on having another serious relationship like I have now. I love how it is. It takes alot out of you when you put all yourself into one, and then to have is fizz? NO! I want this forever! Constant monogamous relationships is a good thing. I did not know about the immune system boost thing. I'd have to look that up. I heard folic acid and a couple other vitamins, umm, vitamin B. It's all i know right now.
I'd like to read more positive results on this, and answers that say, it's not that big a deal. I need that attitude right now. Thank you for reading, and to anyone who responds with something to shed positive light on this :)

A long while back, in 2004, I had a pap while pregnant, and it showed for the higher risk of HPV. I almost passed out!, I had the colposcopy done, I had the biopsy done, it was a quick but terrible pinch but was done fast. Anyways, they got the results from this high risk, and the following pap came back fine. I DO NOT know why but was relieved. I was checked more often, as in paps, and well all the next 3 or 4 were negative. :D happy and relieved, but did not know this stuck with you forever, but still was thinking about it. Even in 2010 I had a pap and it was negative, got my mirena out that day as well.
And so now, my recent 7-5-2012 pap came back abnormal. Freaking slightly, going in for this recent pap, he said cervix looked just fine, as what it was supposed to look like, and yet I get a paper stating I have the moderate to high risk dysplasia?
I talked to a doctor, who does the LEEP procedure many times a week, says it's very successful. I never thought in my life I would have to worry about or monitor myself like this. I have only had 2 partners since 2006. I dont ever want to give up who I have now, but I have yet to tell him of what I am going thru. No deep details. Not sure how to start conversation. I know I am not the only one worried or has ever had to think of this, but I just wanted to be happy, I just wanted a new adventure in life and I found him, things are supposed to be better, they feel better, I can't get enuf of him, and then this old news creeps right back up and now I am so worried, but I have been informed by another doctor I really shouldn't be so worried about this.
The LEEP procedure I read was a little *loop* that gets rid of the potential naughty cells, I think a small burn or electric, I am thinking thats where the burn comes from.
You get a local *up there* (yeah i know but..) and its quick. To heal, you need 4 weeks, no sex, and yes I asked the ever so personal question, clitoral stimulation, but no insertion of anything. Yikes. Sorry for that but I am being honest and just sayin the facts :)
All I hope is that this doesn't keep popping up and popping up and I can get regular paps for quite a long long long time. I have enuf to worry about. I dont ever plan on having another serious relationship like I have now. I love how it is. It takes alot out of you when you put all yourself into one, and then to have is fizz? NO! I want this forever! Constant monogamous relationships is a good thing. I did not know about the immune system boost thing. I'd have to look that up. I heard folic acid and a couple other vitamins, umm, vitamin B. It's all i know right now.
I'd like to read more positive results on this, and answers that say, it's not that big a deal. I need that attitude right now. Thank you for reading, and to anyone who responds with something to shed positive light on this :)

I was diagnosed yesterday as well. its not as bad as i thought it was but i still have it.
your lucky to have an amazing man in your life and i wish you luck with the baby.
reading your post gives me hope that there is a guy out there for me that will accept me but who knows.

i feel the same as you like im a whore even though i havent been with many guys but how i deal with hpv is by this. joining support groups and being open with my mom and best friend about it because all i want to do is talk to someone that understands.