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how about good old fashioned condoms?

that's what my bf and I use... the flavored ones are actually pretty fun.

Hey DoorMatt, I think MJMJ is thinking about the hubby going down on the kitty. Not the other way around. Yes, saran wrap works, but you can also buy a dental dam.

Yeah, your righ Doormat, lol. What is a dental dam? Can you get those in the drug store?

No, I'm sorry. Boxermc2 is right. He needs to lick the kitty! :)

Are you on HIV meds? Have you maintained a non-detectable viral load for 6 months or longer?

Then read this:

People living with HIV who are free of other sexually transmitted diseases and are under effective antiretroviral therapy do not transmit HIV, the AIDS virus, through sexual contact, says the Swiss governmental entity in a text signed by four renowned experts, professors Pietro Vernazza (chairman of the Commission) and Bernard Hirschel, and doctors Enos Bernasconi and Markus Flepp.

To achieve these conditions, an HIV-positive individual must follow antiretroviral therapy to the letter, remain under regular medical testing, and have no other sexually transmitted diseases, and his or her viral load must be undetectable (less than 40 copies of the virus per millilitre of blood) for more than six months.

One of the studies, conducted in Spain with 393 heterosexual couples in which one partner was living with HIV, found that there were no transmissions of the virus to the uninfected partners of people undergoing antiretroviral therapy for 14 years, while the percentage of transmission in couples without ARV treatment was 8.6 percent.


Full Article
http://ipsnews.net/news.asp?idnews...

I have been with my wife for 17 years, at the time of my hiv diagnosis it had been 15 years and we had a 4 year old daughter. At my HIV diagnosis I was also diagnosed with Aids because of cd4 of only 88.

Doctor said I must have Hiv for a long time, even previous to conceiving our daughter. We used no protection because we were unaware of my diagnosis. I have now been on meds for over a year and a half. Just recently about 6 months we have been having sex without a condom. Still she is neg. Leave it up to your partner to make the decision. My wife wasn't comfortable with it at first, but now thinks nothing of it.

Oral is considered pretty safe, but there are always factors to consider such as bleeding gums for direct blood-blood contact. So take all things into consideration, don't floss right before or after if flossing makes you bleed, for example. Any type of barrier will reduce risk, but if it is a pain to use is it worth it? Try it and see!

Just being able to talk about such things, puts you ahead of most couples.

Everything in life has some risk. Minimizing risks is smart. Living in fear is not good. I hope you find a happy balance, and have a lot of fun.

thank you for this discussion
I have recently commenced asafe sex hetrosexual relationship with a hiv neg man
my clinic give dental dams and its cool!
xxx

hahah woops. Since I'm not usually down in that area in girls... it doesn't cross my mind ;)

It's cool Doormat, I can understand, lol. I'm gonna ask my doctor about dental dam. Thanks everyone for helping me out! God Bless!!!

They sell special condoms for oral sex, it's a little more expensive, I should also point out unless he/she has a cut in his mouth and you also have a cut down there that's the only way the disease can be transmitted... I've been with my hubby for six years I've been positive for four, my hubby refuses to wear a condom, and he gives me oral sex only if I don't have a cut... He is still negative .... Sex is not suppose to be complicated for other people but for people living with HIV/AIDS it gets very complicated and stressful, only if we make it... It might help taking your hubby to your doctors appointments and letting the doctors explain the likely hood of you passing on the infection