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HIV (also known as human immunodeficiency virus, and formerly known as HTLV-III and lymphadenopathy-associated virus) is a retrovirus that primarily infects vital components of the...
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I try to explain things to my mother but she just dosen't get it. I am tired alot and sick alot but my mother says that she dosnen't feel good either but that she just makes herself get up and do whatever needs to be done. All I ever get from her is negitive comments. How do I make her understand that I am trying. I wish I could do more but I am pushing myself to the limit as it is. I tell her these things but she dosen't care. It dosen't change a thing. She just dosen't understand what this does to your body. She makes me feel like crap and she doesn't care that she makes me cry. She refuses to see things from my prospective and I'm tired and shes just draining the last of me what should I do? How do I get through to her? She's my mom and I love her how do I make her see what's going on inside of my body and my mind? How do I get her to be supportive and postive instead of so negitive all the time? Please help!
Posted on 10/22/09, 02:10 am |
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Hi Scarlet...
I'm assuming that Mom knows your status? Mine will be finding out today, I have a dentist appointment at the regional ARCW with my friend. She is our driver because we both are having teeth pulled and the drive is an hour long. Before the appointment I letting her know about my status. It's been hard explaining why I'm tired or worn out( I also work 35 hours a week and have diabetes). I'm hoping that she will be understanding after she finds out eventhough I think she suspects my status. I'm still not on meds yet, other than metformin for the diabetes...which in it's self can tire me out trying to keep my sugars down. So I'm with you in that the ones we love need to be understanding and positive to help us battle the virus. 
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Hi Scarlet...
Update on my visit. It went well, it didn't shock mom as bad as expexted. While in my dentist visit my case worker spent about 2 hours going over what to expect and any questions or concerns that mom might have. On the way back home she asked a few questions like who, what, and when but not why. She knows that it's a lifetime of dealing with the good days along with the bad. All in all she knows that there is help out there (i.e. case worker and the ARCW to help me and her if need be). But most of all that she is here for me and I'm there for her (she has dealt with short term 7 years of my dads cancer fight), and knows with proper care and support , I can live a relativly good life with a few changes in my lifestyle ( more naps if tired, diet changes, pro-active on dr. appointments, most of all keep being well informed on changing treatments). The most importaint thing she got was that my caseworker is there for her if she needs help (like support group counseling), and even going whit me to my dr. appointments to understand the changes in my cd4s and viral loads, or my dentist appointments which I have another one in 3 weeks to get 3 teeth pulled, and to go out with my friend Mike for lunch or dinner just to get away from the house and enjoy life.
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I agree with midnight, take her to your dr.apts. and give her the knowledge she needs to help you deal. I have taken my partner to my ID docs before, and he always knows all of my current dr-dentist, dermatologist, GP, ID. She needs to understand you aren't going to die. things aren't as they used to be. Good Luck, and if needed, I am a message away~
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