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When my kids were little , I stayed home and my husband worked.
Now I am raising a 10 mo and a 3 yr and my husband is layoff victim( almost 8 months now), and I am primary wage earner. He watches 3 yr old, and takes him to therapy and preschool, the baby goes to daycare. I wish I could stay home with these kids. I miss them while Im at work. I don’t get home until 6. Somehow, they are still very attached to me, but I don’t get to be there enough. I appreciate DH taking care of 3yo, and I’m happy he gets to enjoy this time, and he is enjoying it. He says he missed so much by being at work all the time when our kids were little. But sometimes I am sad, and a little jealous. Without my pay we would lose our house. DH was construction, and it’s looking like he is going to have to change careers as he is not going to be able to make the kind of money he made before. I always thought it would be cool if I made the money, But I can tell you now, it’s not greener on the other side……… Posted on 11/05/09, 09:11 am |
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It's completely different, isn't it?
My husband worked nights (tractor-trailer driver) and I worked at home. Just before we got the kids he retired and I got lured into a full-time job. He did a pretty good job with the kids for four years. Then I got laid off and I'm working on resuming my work-at-home career. What's really funny is the differences in parenting style with men and women. On Tuesday I spent the entire day working at the polls. When I finally dragged myself in the door, tired but happy, at 10:00, there was my husband and all three kids watching "Dante's Peak" at full blast. Dishes in the sink, popcorn everywhere, a Monopoly game spread out on the table, hungry cats, you name it. I just laughed -- it was right out of some sitcom! But the kids were deliriously happy and scared out of their minds from the movie (we had to tell them it was all make-believe). So considering my candidates won, it was, all in all, a great day :-) 
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I was able to stay home with my two girls but started working to build up a pension for retirement and help pay off the mortgage. So I was unable to stay home with our grandson and it's much more difficult. He's 16 now and it's not as bad, but especially in the summer when he was younger I felt so awful. I remembered the wonderful times the girls and I had in the summer together but he had to be shuttled off to daycare. But, there's nothing to be done about it - we need my income. At least I'm very fortunate that I have flex time with my job and have never missed any of his school activities or sports events.
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I feel the same way, ladies. I miss my little GS so much during the day & I just hate it that he's in daycare 9 hours a day. He loves being at home. He's only 2 and he says, "No skoo. Home! Home!" He's fine once he gets there and gets acclimated & he's always perfectly happy when I pick him up, but oh what I wouldn't do to spend my days with him; at least part-time. I got to be a stay-at-home mom with his daddy and my daughter & I didn't realize just how good I had it until now. I sure wish I could come up with a good work from home business, too. At the same time, I surely do appreciate a good job and a wonderful boss, which I know everyone doesn't have.
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