Grandparents Raising Children Support Group

I am sooo furious right now and have been sitting here almost shaking for the past 2 hours.

I'm not sure if many remember that I went "home" in September to visit with my ailing parents and to also attend the funeral of my brother in law. I took me gd with me. That was September 15th that I left.

Well on 10-23 I get this im from my dd:

my daughter (10/23/2009 7:02:17 PM): oh yeah speaking of that, im not trying to start a fight or anything like that, but i thought thatt you were gonna let me knowo when you were gonna go up there; beacuse i wanted to go see grandma and grandpa. and to be quite honest you really kinda hurt my feelings when i called one day to talk to the kids only to find out that you (gd)and (friend) had left to go to washington. at the very least you should have let me know so that i could say bye to (gd).

my daughter (10/23/2009 7:03:20 PM): but like i said im not trying to start a fight or anything i just wanted you to know how i felt.

I didn't respond to her im this time because I am so totally over the bickering and fighting and lets face it I have more important things to do with my time than to bicker with her. Besides, I'm not going to let her do this to me.

So dd doesn't have any contact for almost 2 weeks then decides to call at noon today. My gd refused to talk to her and my gs only said "hi mommy" I then take it off speaker phone and she asks me, in her smug little attitude voice, "Oh yeah, btw, did you ever get my im?" I said, "yeah I got it but chose not to answer it because I'm not fighting and arguing with you anymore." I can't believe (well actually I can) she put on the fake tears and started her fake crying and said, "I wasn't trying to start anything with you and it's ok if what I have to say isn't important to you" She kept saying stuff and I hung up on her. When I did, my gd got upset and said, "Hey, don't hang up." I asked her if she wanted to talk to her mommy now and she said yes so I called my gd back. My dd sounded fine on the phone the second time so I knew the tears and boo hooing was a game. Hm she's not taking her meds again.

My gd didn't say but 5 words to her and she was done. My dd tells my daughter that she just woke up and was getting ready to go to work. Oh it must be nice to have 2 children and not have to worry about them. What I would give for 1 day a year to sleep as long as I want. LOL My dd started to tell my gd that she was coming over this Saturday, but I stopped her in her tracks. I told her "Don't. The last time you said something like this, you didn't do it so just DON'T"

Well I told my dd "now, the reason I didn't respond to you was because I am not fighting with you." She started the boo hoo game again and said it's not important and to never mind and not to bring it up because obviously her feelings don't mean much to me. I told her to knock it off and she's the one who brought it up in the first place and I was now responding to her. I told her "first of all, I don't answer to you and second, this is your fault. You could've called me back to find out when I was going, but you never did." She then tried to blame me again by saying "I asked you to let me know when you were going so I could go with you." Again, I told her "this is your fault."

Truth be known, I didn't want her to go with me to my parents, because I wasn't about to put up with her crap for an entire week nor was I going to put up with her attitude, mouth and her playing mommy of the year in front of everyone. Besides, if she wanted to go that bad, she would've called me to find out when I was going. Who does she think she is. It must not have bothered her THAT bad because it took her 30 days to tell me it bothered her.

It's so funny how everyone else can tell her when she has hurt our feelings, but she won't even apologize for it, she won't own up to it and she won't do anything to try to change it. Yet, let someone else hurt her feelings and boy do we pay for it over and over and over again. Amazing... It all comes back to her narcicistic behaviors. So IF she decides to show up this Saturday and starts 1 little problem or 1 little snide remark or is filthy or looks stoned, she is going to be told to leave. I won't let her do this to the babies.

Part 2 of my vent is coming and this one is about the bioloser. This is the only place I feel safe enough to vent and I try to hard to work it out without having to come here, but there are times where I can't work it out on my own. Thank you for letting me vent.
Posted on 11/03/09, 02:11 pm