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Well the "judge" awarded Joseph to his "mother" on august 13th and we have been going through the worse nightmare of our lives, worse than when our 4 month old son died from SIDS. We have had him since birth and on September 8th, he turned 5 years old. we have seen him 2 times and supposed to get to visit with him every 2 weeks. Last time we saw him, his penis and butt were bleeding, so we called CPS, it took them 3 weeks to investigate and they told her we called. So now we can't talk to him or see him AGAIN. He started kindergarten and is now getting in fights. He told us over the phone (and have it recorded) that she is spanking him nad his back hurts from it and she admitted to it. We called CPS again and they did nothing. We have called CPS 16 times and either they do nothing or just don't return our calls. We know he is being physically and mentally abused and possibily sexually. But the courts have left us with no option but to stand by and watch the sweetest little boy suffer. He is so scared. She locks him in his room and threatens him. He has lost 20 pounds and she has not taken him to the doctor for his seizures or asthma. I have also lost 25 pounds and never sleep, I can't work and dropped most of my classes cuz all I can think of is how poor Joseph is suffering. We protected him for 5 years, but now we can't. She also told him she is "mommy" and his "dad" is the rapist who abused him (except the DA won't file charges even though he admitted it). Now he has access to Joseph. He is convicted rapist of a minor (before we knew him)and is on Megans Law. I am so frustrated and scared for Joseph. We almost had her talked into letting him stay with us during the week so he could go to school here. We had him enrolled in a private Christina school, but then she was told we called CPS, now she said no. Also she said we could take him to the doctors for his seizures, but now thats out of the question also. She only cares about herself and not Joseph. We have called every law and political person and hired Private investigators and lawyers, but nothing. WE NEED HELP before this little boy ends up dead. Our lives are on hold until Joseph is safely back home with us. Please someone help us. There must be an attorney or organization that can help us. We are living a nightmare and it gets worse everyday. I just want to wake up and have it a bad dream.
Posted on 10/28/09, 08:10 am |
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OMG! Prayers coming your way. How in the world, and what kind of judge? Lord protect his innocent child. 
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I"m so sorry for Joseph. It sounds like he is acting out his frustrations. Do YOU have a lawyer? We were in a similar situation, knew there was abuse (actually more than we thought) and neglect but Children and FAmily dismissed us and told us to leave them alone. We hired a private attorney who had experience in grandparent cases. It took a year but eventually they played out their cards and gs was taken from them and put in our care. We adopted him 2 years later so they could never touch him again. However, damage from the abuse was done and he, and we, still live with it. Your local congressman has an obligation to help. I would park myself in his/her office until they listen to you. Also, go to media. All stations have investigative reporters looking for stories. Plus you can contact Department of Humans Services in Washington and report the lack of follow up on the local people. Be prepared. They will call you crazy, tell you to mind your own business, and hang up on you, but DON"T GIVE UP! Persistance will pay off. I w/bet if they interviewed school personnel they w/find out what is going on. You have to fight for Joe! You are his advocate. If I can be of help in researching who to call, etc. let me know. I have become a strong advocate for grandparents raising grandchildren in Illinois and have done research in other states also. Stay strong. Joe needs you.
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Joesmommy: your story hit too close to home for me and I want to help you save him. i looked up your town and the State Representative is Dave Cox. The Federal Rep is Dan Lungren. Have you contacted them? I shared your story my representative in Washington and asked him to speak with Dan Lungren to get help for you. Why don't you put another post up for each grandmom to contact their federal representatives to talk with yours and get you help. We can unite for each other to help Joe. The bleeding you report most likely is sexual abuse so we need to move quickly to get him back to you. Understand that the problemis that grandparents have no standing in court and that is why we are not listened to. We need to get our representatives and senators to help us get standing so we can advocate successfully for our grandchildren. Come on everybody....let's help Joe! One other thing: because you cared for Joe for most of his life, you are legally responsible to report any suspected abuse. Point that out to CPS. They cannot continue to ignor you. You do not mention if daughter lives in same town? That may have a bearing on where to report also. Be strong. I, for one, am here to care.
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Also definitely contact the Bill O'Reilly show. Injustices to kids is one of his passions. I would suggest that you write something no longer than your post above -- even shorter if you can condense it. Maybe flag the subject line with something like "why is CPS condoning child abuse?" or another phrase that will catch the producers' attention.
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Joesmommy,
I am so sorry for your situation, but more so, I'm mortified and horrified for Joe. You stated that you are supposed to get visits with him. Are they court ordered? If they are, enforce the visits through the courts. File against the parents if they aren't allowing you to have court ordered visits with Joe. Then what I would do is to exam him, hold him, hug him etc... then take pics if there are any bruises. Use a digital camera with a date and time stamp to show when the pics were taken. If you see ANY out of order bruises, take the pics and Joe straight to the police department and tell them you want a report made. Then I would also contact his school. Tell them what is going on because at the very least, the counselor can talk with Joe and if she suspects abuse, then she HAS to report it. The more reports on file, the more people who call to report it the more CPS will have to do something. If it comes down to it, get pics of Joe with the bruises and take them to the courts to the judge and show him what his decision has done to Joe. Find out if you can get a T.R.O. to get Joe out of that situation and back with you... I agree with Daisy... start making noise where ever you can... be it the media, the school, the doctors, anyone who will listen... Then I would ask them all, do you want his abuse on your hands? I would also contact Dept Human Services in Washington as Daisy suggests, because I didn't think CPS could give out the name of the person who reports abuse.... Sweetie, we are all here for you and I will be saying prayers for you AND Joe.... Please keep us informed.
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The next time you do get him and I pray you do… if you see anything like the last time take him straight to the ER they have to report suspected child abuse. They have people that can talk to Joseph and maybe get him to tell them what is happening to him. Maybe talk to the school and tell them of your suspicions and ask them to keep and watch and please report anything they find suspicious.
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Great idea, granna!
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I don't care what it takes to get this on TV but even if they had you stand outside CPS Building tell it to the Press get the word out!!! Just don't give up PLEASE.
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Ladies, let's focus on contacting state and federal legislators. We need a united front to gain attention for the cause, not just Joe. I fear it may not be the best for Joe to be on TV and that is certainly in the hands of Joesmommy. However, writing to legislators we can share our stories and hers to let them know what is happening in every state and use this case to point out that grandparents need standing in court to protect their grandchildren. When I said contact medica, I was speaking of TV, radio and newspapers in her area who would have an interest in a case in their neighborhood.
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Sorry if I sounded way out there. But I met the local Media in her area too.
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