Grandparents Raising Children Support Group

GD had a birthday yesterday and we met with bio mom and her father and stepmother at local mall food court. Pleasant family gathering, right? No way. DD picked up conversation with druggie (his teeth were black and rotted, obvious meth user and acting badly) sitting nearby and had GD hug him. GD's therapist and I have been working hard on GD's tendancy to hug total strangers and bio mom had been advised of this...so I quietly asked her to refrain from this..............and............she exploded. I asked her to calm down and remember that we were all there to celebrate GD's birthday. She continued. Her father and wife left saying they couldn't deal with her behavior. DD had not bought GD a gift but had money so we went shopping. More drama. She told sales clerks that I had stolen her daughter, but, as they were calling for help and I was thinking I was going to really have a problem, she finally told them I had custody. Fortunately I carry my custody papers in the car. And more and more and more. DD told me a neighbor had stolen her prescription drugs (adderal, suboxone, ambien and who knows what else), that they had loaned their food stamp card to someone for cash and she spent it all, etc. I can't tell you how many times I have heard the same stories over the past years. And, she never once told GD Happy Birthday or acknowledged her birthday other than handing her $20. From now on I refuse to supervise her visits...she'll have to pay to have an agency supervise them because I'm DONE. Oh...she also told me that GD, who was 4 at time, seduced her abuser and it wasn't his fault. My nerves are so frayed and poor GD. She told me on the way home that she wished her mother would act like she used to and that I had two daughters...her mommy and herself. When I tried to clarify that she was my GRANDdaughter she said no, I'm your daughter.
Posted on 07/25/12, 10:13 am