Gay Parenting Support Group

Hello everyone, I just needed some advice. I just got married 6 month ago but my husband and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. Last month I found out that he has two daughters, 9 and 4. He says that he had a roommate who was a lesbian but did not want her family to know that she was lesbian so I'm not quite sure if they got married or not, she has his last name and his daughters too. Well he said that her partner and her wanted children so he gave her two daughters. Whenever I questioned him about it he became angry and refuses to speak about it. He says it hurts that he is not a part of his daughters' life anymore. I asked him if he was involved in their lives before he met me and he said yes. He was involved up to that year we started dating. I feel bad, I wouldn't mind being a part of their lives but he says his roommate asked him to stay out of their lives. I'm not sure if it's because he finally met someone (me) or what. At first I was really upset, not for giving his roommate two daughters but because he kept this from me. I don't like to see him hurt and I know he feels bad because he is very involved with his other children. He told me not to contact his daughters' mom, which I happened to know. I went to school with her and played sports with her. She is a wonderful person, very sweet, quiet and nice. She was one of the few people that spoke to me back then being that I was a very shy person. I just wish I could speak to her and see if we could all be involved but maybe I'm missing the bigger picture. I don't know what kind of challenges gay parents face and for those who have children. I just wish I could understand why she told him to stay out of their lives once he got serious with me??? any insight of why she feels that way?
Posted on 09/21/09, 04:09 pm