Gay Parenting Support Group

my ex and I had a child together. I am the non bio mom, but consider myself to be the primary parent. We split up when the child was 2 and now he is nine. she always refused to let me put him on my insurance or have any formal custody agreement in writing. we have maintained over the years a "word of mouth" joint custody in which I have always had him three-four days a week and we rotate. My child and I are ridiculously close. I read with him everyday. We camp together, cook together and I take him to the park where we play baseball frisbee and ride bikes. I provide emotional support and nurturing in every way. We are very active in our uu church. I love this little boy more than the world.

A week ago his bio mother has decided to take him and move far away. She refused to talk to me about the issue simply saying he's her son and she can do what she wants. She says "He gets no voice. He's nine. I'm his voice." Since there has been no agreement in writing to this point and she threatened that I would never see him again if I tried any sort of litigation I feel completely helpless and hopeless. the one legal professional i spoke to said it would be extremely difficult to do anything since there has never been anything in writing. Basically, I've lost my child and am at my wits end. I don't know how to live without him on a day to day basis.... HELP! IDEAS??
Posted on 08/20/09, 10:08 am