Gay Men's Challenges Support Group

Communication is of vital importance here. You and him need to really be open on here you both feel about one another and see how you two will take it to the next level.

Is long distance something that would hinder such a relationship?

I know for me, if I can't cuddle with the guy I love, it's just not the same.

But for others, having an ocean between them doesn't really serve as a problem.

I think that would be the biggest obstacle. Deciding what would be the benefits and downsides of not being able to be physically near each other. And maybe someday you could actually get together in person.

I have been in a fifteen year relationship with my French spouse (I am an American). Unfortunately, it is difficult for him to work in the USA, so we keep two homes; one in Paris and one in the USA.

I work a lot and travel about 70 per cent of the time, so it isn't very different than being gone and "coming home" to Paris or the USA. We see each other every month, for a week or two. Many times, he comes with me on my business trips. I've always considered our relationship healthy, because we always have so many things to talk about.

So, fifteen years and counting, I am very happy and am able to succeed in my professional life, while he doesn't lose his roots in France.

It works!!