Gay Men's Challenges Support Group

Maybe you should ask him out?

im not into him like that.

Dear Fibroh3lix: I pray that you have found a gay-friendly therapist by now. If not, kindly call your local Mental Health Association, or your state chapter of the National Association of Social Workers, for referrals. Sometimes, the county Department of Mental Health can provide referrals as well. Best of luck.

i am under my parents insurance.. problem is they claim me on their taxes, so i am not considered a dependent.

Hey Fibroh3lix,

I totally feel you. I had the same problem with my best friend actually. Everytime we'd go to clubs or even anywhere for that matter, people would chat him up and he'd always have someone's number while they'd pretend I didn't exist. It doesn't help that he's a 10 and I'm...well...yeah. It would hurt because everytime I'd turn around he'd have someone while I've been single the past four years. It's painful because I love my best friend and have put him through hell with my attitude, and since I'm trying to soften things up I've been more willing to listen to him and give him advice (which he needs...often).

Also grew up in a relatively sheltered home and as an introvert who hates parties and new environments, I suck socially. So I feel ya. Plus the gay community outright SUCKS a lot of times. Shallow, petty, and superficial. Gay men with brains and morals don't thrive there well.

The best thing to do Fibro is work on YOU. Perhaps you're being not only too hard on your friend, but too hard on yourself as well. Perhaps you can ask your friend what you're doing wrong? He knows you better than any of us probably do, so maybe he can help you out in the social department. Or even invest into online dating. A lot of people on online dating sites generally look for friends in the gay community (half of them actually), and it'll be a chance for you to talk to them one to one. Just be careful who you talk to.

thanks commander. I appreciate your response. that is exactly what im going through!! im sorry you had to go through that. i am being hard on him when he does something bad and he has made his huge mistakes, just like i have. we have a very great connection though, and we both listen to eachother so it should be fine. however yes i do the online dating, haven't found anyone yet in the last 5-6 years i've been doing it.