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Hi, im new here but i wanted to talk about something that is bothering me. I was straight my whole life till last november when i realized that "problem" with me. Everytime i dated a guy, anything sexual was so awkward and i hated it and i didnt want to do anything.. And so i started seeing lesbian stuff on the internet, and i watch one of those weird anime lesbian videos and i realllllyy liked it haha more then i thought i should have at the time xD. anyways after awhile i started realizing whats been "wrong" with me..and that i was lesbian!
So after that..i stopped hanging out with guys and i stopped dating and i met a girl online and weve been together for almost a year. everything seems fine so far..but its not. I hate long distance relationships i want someone here.. but..no one is gay here..i feel alone.. and theres no one to talk to here. and i cant connect with my group of friends anymore cause its all about guys this guys that and all the latest drama and who they like and stuff and thats how friends click.. ya..i cant do that anymore and i dont know anything about guys cause of course i dont care.. so i kinda lost connection with my friends alittle..which hurts.. i still have my best friend of course whos awesome, but i feel alone at school and on weekends cause theres no one around.. i just wonder if anyone has any advice on this :{{ cause its hurting more and more everyday and i feel more alone :{ and i hate it.. it seems i only have my gf and my best friend and thats it.... everyone is moving on without me and idk how to find any friends at my school who are lesbian or bi or anything that i can relate too...when i really need and want those type of friends.. so i can get back to connecting with people. Oh and btw im 18 and a senior in high school, just to give you guys an idea of where i am in life lol. so ya..if u guys have any helpful tips or just.. talk to me ;[ that would be great Posted on 10/21/09, 08:10 pm |
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Well first i would like to welcome you.
I think in your predicament, that this place will be very helpful. There are alot of good people and some very good advice. I know how you feel with the long distance thing, its happened to me and alot of other people around here. The only thing i can say about it is that, the true test of love is if it can trancend trivial things like distance, which in your case it has. Its slightly better because your 18, road trip!! In a more local thought of mind, try looking around for some gay orginizations. Because im sure that there are some poeple like you around, mabey just hideing :D? Welcome to Daily Strength! Were hearts and minds collide! 
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thank you ^^ and yah im surprised weve made it through so long xD and yah thats not a bad idea i didnt think of that ^_^ ty
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well, we're all here for you. i'm bi, and as a half-lesbian i say, "Hello, friend!!" and as a person i say, "HOWDY!!" lol
so, yeah. try and find a group, and look around here at people's profiles. you may find someone who lives near your area. good luck! :-) Jo
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ty! ^_^
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im pretty sure I know exactly how you feel. like everything you said. I was like gah im not the only one. when my friends talk about guys its like I dont know what to say.. "yeah hes hot" if I can hear myself lying why cant they!?... anywayss!! also the only time I have ever had anything close to a relationship with a girl it was online cause I also live in straight land! andd I ended up getting hurt. soo I wish you the best with that!!!! and for friends. weekends come and its like I mind as well sleep the entire time cause I have no one. my best friend is a guy who im in a band with (sorta matt and kim style) andd we barley hang out cause hes wicked busy. so I find my self here. looking to make friends!!! andd that brings me too... im normally always on because I have no life. soo if you ever wanna talk dont hesitate!!! everrrrr andd add me as a friend if youd like.. or better yet.. imma add you!!! hope to talk to you sometime! keep it real!
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I also understand how you feel with friends. I've had a hard time getting along with girls when I was in high school because I couldn't talk about guys the way they do so my very few friends are dudes. If I get uncomfortable I end up just leaving them and going somewhere else. This method is not really good at creating friendships so I really wouldn't recommend it. I'm still trying to find a way to make and keep female friends but its not really working out for me either. I'll be here if you need someone to relate too =)
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Just some advice from personal experience... A) find people you connect with on an intellicutal level. Their drama should not be the basis of a relationship and neither should yours. All my friends know I'm gay but I only have 2 or 3 that I really can talk to about being gay and my feelings about it. B) Guy friends are your saving grace. If you can find a guy or two to chill with and escape the drama of high school girls, it makes it much easier. I've got 3 really good guy friends who are amazing people and have removed themselves from the drama of most of my friends so they're great to talk to and just chill with when you need a break. I'm curious why you stopped hanging out with guys all together. Guys and girls can be friends without having a sexual interest in each other. C) The internet is great... You've already discoved that. D) Remember you won't be in highschool forever. College is less than a year away for you. Most colleges now a days have great resources for LGBT youth. E) the more comfortable you are the more comfortable everyone else will be around you.
Good luck and welcome
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