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While there are many diversions for dealing with emotional eating,, there is usually fear and anger at the root of your distress. Facing it is the only way to get rid of it. Writing and sharing are two good ways for dealing with the feelings. Try using this approach, based on confronting unhealthy thinking and changing the outcomes.
A. Action: Something happens, an issue results.
B. You develop a Belief about the incident.
C. You Construct a feeling based on your belief about what happened, involving you and others.
As you know, our feelings about an issue tend to cast us and others in the worst possible light. Left at this step, we punish ourselves and resent others and that internalized negativity feeds our obsessions and compulsions! Luckily there are more steps:
D. Dispute the belief about the incident. Look at what you can and can't control. Look at your feelings about others. Are your beliefs about them accurate?
E. Evaluate. Is it worth the stress and resultant impact on your emotions to hold on to resentment toward yourself and others?
F. Forgive, then, Forget, or Flee. If it's healthy, make amends and changes regarding the issue. Otherwise, get away from the person or situation and avoid getting caught up in new emotional damage.
G. Go back and review as needed.
Write up the incident and your feelings in the form above, paying special attention to D - G. If you like, share what you come up with on your journal and ask for feedback on the board. Feelings that lead to emotional eating are never Off Topic! (:-)
A. Action: Something happens, an issue results.
B. You develop a Belief about the incident.
C. You Construct a feeling based on your belief about what happened, involving you and others.
As you know, our feelings about an issue tend to cast us and others in the worst possible light. Left at this step, we punish ourselves and resent others and that internalized negativity feeds our obsessions and compulsions! Luckily there are more steps:
D. Dispute the belief about the incident. Look at what you can and can't control. Look at your feelings about others. Are your beliefs about them accurate?
E. Evaluate. Is it worth the stress and resultant impact on your emotions to hold on to resentment toward yourself and others?
F. Forgive, then, Forget, or Flee. If it's healthy, make amends and changes regarding the issue. Otherwise, get away from the person or situation and avoid getting caught up in new emotional damage.
G. Go back and review as needed.
Write up the incident and your feelings in the form above, paying special attention to D - G. If you like, share what you come up with on your journal and ask for feedback on the board. Feelings that lead to emotional eating are never Off Topic! (:-)
A. Planned to go to the gym with my son, and workout while he does trainer. Got ready to go early and then at the last moment, couldn't find my keys, with my Gym tag on them, sending him on, so he wasn't late.
B. (False) Belief: "No matter what I do, it's not enough!"
C. Got really frustrated, "F*ck it, I didn't want to work out anyway... Besides what difference does it make?"
Set up for doing nothing and possibly raiding the pantry for a comfort shot....
D. Is it true? No. Deny negativity and rethink:
"I want to exercise and I don't want to eat."
Underlying feeling: I was disappointed that I couldn't spend time with my son.
E. Evaluation shows it is definitely NOT worth screwing myself up.
Change the situation by walking a mile and working out on my gym in the garage.. Crisis avoided!
This is a very effective tool, would someone like to give it a shot?