What is Gambling Addiction
Compulsive gambling is an urge or addiction to gamble despite harmful negative consequences or a desire to stop. A preferred term among many professionals is problem gambling, as f...
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......an old entry from my journal ........
.........Blame......... I once heard a noted speaker talk about things that needed to be eliminated from my life, if I sought to find true serenity and peace. One of the first points he made was to point out that one of the first things that needed to go was "blame". No more blaming it on other people. No more blaming it on other things. No more blaming it on situations and circumstances. No more "blame'. The alternative? Tough stuff, but it means that I'm gonna have to take personal responsibility for, not only my addiction, but also for my recovery. I can no longer blame it on anyone or anything else. All the old excuses, avoidances, reasons, justifications, fabrications......all that old hogwash just ain't gonna cut it no longer......it's time to get honest, time to stand up and get counted, time to call it like it really is...... No more......"Not my fault, it's the urges" No more......"Not my fault, it's the stress" No more......"Not my fault, it's the addiction" No more......"Not my fault, it's my friend/ sister/ kids/ husband/ boss" No more......"Not my fault, it's the casinos and their ads, their location, their numbers" No more blame......"It's cause I have money, it's payday, I got my tax refund.......If I was broke, there would be no problem." (Blame it on the money? Huh?) No more blame......"It's cause someone said something to somebody about something" or "Someone did something someplace." or "Somebody didn't......" (Yeah, right. It's someone else's fault.....blame them) No more blame......"I'm still too new, I'm not "ready" to stop gambling yet, I'm not strong enough to do that, maybe later, there's too much I just don't understand,I need to understand "why" first, poor me." (Blame my situation for it....Hello!!! Do you understand "Stop Gambling!!") No more blame......."It's the fault of the gambling itself. After all, I've been gambling for umpteen years, who could blame me for continuing to gamble? (Blame myself?....Great, always been wrong, why change it?) No more blame......"I wouldn't keep gambling if I didn't feel so (here we go) sad, grief stricken, guilty, ashamed, desperate, confused, lonely, hopeless, angry, bored, afraid........(Yep, sure......I'll "blame" it on my own emotions.) In the end, I realized, all the blame, as the speaker had pointed out, did indeed need to go. I could not continue to hang on to any of it. Rigorous honesty and a true look at myself and my situation showed me that all the "blame" was simply hogwash. My addiction, my ideas, my situation.....were all a result of my choices and my actions........ and there was no "blame" that I could realistically or justifiably assign to outside influences. The problem, and the solution, lay within my own heart....... "blame" merely postponed what I eventually needed to do anyhow......... look inside myself and find the thing that I'd been "blaming" all those other things and people for hiding from me. I wasted a lot of days, weeks, months and years playing the "blame game". Today, I can look back and see it was because I'm an addict. I'm filled with fears, controlled by ego, lacking in courage....... it was easier to look for a place to put the "blame". No more blame. Posted on 07/05/09, 03:07 pm |
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Wow.
"It's my medicine. I'll take it." - (From)The Greatest Show on Earth 
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You know what...............Just admit to yourself that YOU and nobody else made you do what you did. Accept it, believe it and you will eventually find peace within yourself and recovery will come a bit easier.
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HI Eastwester. Another ''entry I like'
And am putting it back to the head of the 'list.with my entry. Please read my sister brother cg's . this entry 'was Wonderful . Amen 'the Blame Game. Sandra gams5
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Yes, I too love this post! It's already been so very helpful and I'm sure I'll keep refering back to it again and again as time goes on.
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I totally understand. I have spent the past year examining, researching, reading (I even read this site for over a month before even joining), thinking about quitting, talking about quitting, searching, etc, etc...
What was I really doing? POSTPONING THE ONLY THING LEFT TO DO - STOP GAMBLING. Now that I think about it, I have known in my heart what I need to do for a long time...but just in the past 5 days have I actually NOT GAMBLED. Wow, I can't believe I made it through 5 days. And, I can't believe how sad it is that it is actually an accomplishment to make it through 5 days of not gambling. Sad.
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You go Doxi! Good for you, 5 days is 5 days, and that is more than a lot of people could say.
As for the post, I LOVE it 2! This group os helping me so much. You guys just don't know how glad I am that I joined.
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