What is Gambling Addiction
Compulsive gambling is an urge or addiction to gamble despite harmful negative consequences or a desire to stop. A preferred term among many professionals is problem gambling, as f...
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He keeps gambling....and I continue to sit here and "take it". It doesn't even seem worth it to be angry and sad any more. It doesn't MATTER how I feel...does it? He keeps on going to the casino regardless of how I feel.
Do I invite him to therapy with me? I feel numb and I pray every day not to be bitter and keep anger in my heart...but I am FURIOUS with him, especially now that I am working a second job to make ends meet. I don't know what to do...feeling like it's taking all my strength to be civil and I feel EVIL for harboring ugly, disrespectful feelings. But talking about my feelings NEVER works. I feel like saying, "You keep on pretending you don't gamble, and I'll keep pretending it doesn't hurt me. Isn't that what you want? Isn't that the game we play?" So tired of the bullshit....so mad that he thinks so little of me and devalues our relationship by doing this. Absolutely up against a wall today. Just trying to be grateful for the blessings I have. Canterville Posted on 11/07/09, 02:11 pm |
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In every circumstance I encounter in life, where a decision on my part is required, I have two choices........and two choices only.
Change.....or acceptance. Just like we pray for in the serenity prayer, I ask God for one of two things.......for either the serenity to accept or for the courage to change...... those circumstances and situations which are troubling me. I may choose to delay, to pretend it's not so important, to seek excuses, to hide from the truth, to try to "think" myself through it, to disguise the issue in a dozen different ways........but until I take some action to improve my situation it will most likely remain the same in the way it affects me. Change and acceptance.....both are action words......they require an effort on my part. Either I accept things as they are or I make some changes.........Two choices, I was taught. Two choices only. In the third line of the serenity prayer we pray for wisdom.......Wisdom, as I understand it, can be described as "knowledge gained through experience"........And if I were seeking "wisdom" on the subject of compulsive gambling, I'd probably ask the people who have that "knowledge gained through experience". I'd ask some recovering compulsive gamblers. 
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After 3 years or so since my husband became a CG, I finally have control of the money. His paycheck gets direct deposited into an account that he's not on and he only gets money if I give it to him.(Although occasionally he will borrow it from our two children). He usually eventually pays it back. Right now he is so angry and not speaking to me for about 4 days. Why? Because when he asked for more money then I've allotted him to go gamble with (he only wanted $20), I said no. I know the game, see. He would ask for $20 and then go to the casino and when he spent that, he would call and beg for more. I use to give into that, but no more. Of course, right now life sucks around here with the silent treatment going on but at least I know our money is safe. I suggest to you, Canterville, that you stop worrying about HIS feelings so much and do what's needed to protect your money. He will get angry with you, but that's HIS problem. Maybe we'll end up divorcing over this but right now, I have the power and where as it's stressful, it's a lot less stressful then wondering if money will still be in the account tomorrow. Good advice as always, Eastwester. I think right now, I am in "acceptance" that this is how things are going to be until he wants to change. Missy
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i have kicked my husband out. he's been sleeping in the car for a week. his mother and friends have finally said NO to him . . . what a nightmare. im ready to go to the lawyer and get a divorce/annulment, after only one year of marriage. he's staring homelessness dead in the face, i think he's scared by it. he always had his mommy to go home to .. finally, she said NO. whatever. im disguisted, angry, frustrated , sad, depressed, everything. i hate him right now, but this addiction is insane to me. i dont understand it. cancer is a disease. this, he has a choice, right? GRRRRR
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