What is Gambling Addiction
Compulsive gambling is an urge or addiction to gamble despite harmful negative consequences or a desire to stop. A preferred term among many professionals is problem gambling, as f...
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I know my H is actively gambling again....I caught him with a GPS tracker only yesterday. Howevere, I think he is fearful to have his cover blown if he removes too much money from our accounts.
The problem is there is substantial money in the savings and checking accounts. I worry that with me being away for 3 evenings, the temptation to gamble will override any fear of me finding out. Keep in mind, I have access to bank info via computer while I am away....but in the throes of a binge...I won't be able to stop him. I am wrestling with leaving things alone and just letting things happen...perhaps a binge might bring him to his bottom! But I am also thinking....pay off the car payment early, and transfer the savings to my exclusive savings account so he can't touch it. He'll still be able to squander what's left in the checking account if I do this. However, moving $17000 in cash to my account without telling him will surely cause WWIII when he discovers I've done it....clearly indicating that I am fearful he will be tempted to gamble it away. Should I leave it alone...or should I tell him my concerns about him being alone and being tempted...inviting him to be a part of the transfer funds/make car payment early decision? Thoughts? Cantervilleghost Posted on 07/22/09, 12:07 pm |
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Why do you even hesitate. TAKE IT. If he plans to gamble, put him on an allowance,. This is a gamlber, not spouse talking! It kills me but I am thinking about asking my husband for a legal seperation so he and our daughter can have some financial security, without fear of me ruining it.
The guild and shame he feals when he takes from the family is there. He may be mad, woo hoo, but inside he knows. The guid and shame is what leads many to unpleasant thoughts..... 
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OK, so I responded impulsivley, I lack impulse control, hmm color me suprised! My input is move and then ask him to participate in the decision. I can't see anyone objecting, the money is there, and it is safe. He should not fault you for having a bit of concern about your security and financial health.
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Over the past year my husbands access to our money has narrowed! My bol now handles our finances (even though I am good at it) My husband is clever and has found ways into my account (my 3rd bank), I am sure his good looks, charm and fast talking help when he walks in and works em over, the same way he works me over! So I had a little visit with the Bank Manager yesterday, changed some things around! I hope it works! MOVE THE MONEY, NOW!!! The sad truth is that you cannot trust your husband, you want to, but you can't! Yep it sucks! I know how it feels! And the "cat and mouse guy" That guy is CLUELESS! I get you, I get it, I get the whole thing!
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