Foster Care Support Group

I am a foster mom and I know the pain you are feeling. We take care of little ones and love them like my own and it so hard to let them go. The state can take them at any time but,, the parents have to prove themselves and be able to provide the child with a stable environment. With all the children I have had, the state started slowly re-introducing the child to the parent with weekly visits and with some children it took longer than others to adapt to the situation. It all depends on the child, I also had one parent who said, " hey I think it's in the best interest to stay with the family who has raised him." Don't give up, I know it's hard and I know the pain you are going through.

Maybe you can work something out with them that you keep him and they do regular visits? It will be so difficult for them to find their way in society again and get their own lives back together without the added struggle and responsibility of raising a child. I don't think the state would just automatically take him away and give him back until they are sure the parents have their act together. Good luck to you!

I'm a foster child, and those situations can be really tough. If you are granted custody and his parents try to take him, that is kidnapping. Visits could be great, especially because he is sooo young, but it's also your responsibility to look out for his best interests and you're doing the right thing. My suggestions would be to pray about it, and even talk to his parent about what will happen after the are paroled.

Good luck!