Fibromyalgia Support Group

well I am on baby number 2 since being dxed with fibro. My first daughter now 5 was an ultram baby. That was the med of choice while pregnant to combat pain. The biggest worrywas withdrawl butshe showed NO signs of withdrawl and has managed to develope well with no problems. My fibro wasnt any worse really for the wear. I had a c section and healed well. I had bipolar issues after pregnancy but that was a whole different story.

This pregnancy has been very hard on me. I am having my c section on jan 4th atm. I am actually going to ask if they will deliver early because of extreamly painful hemroid issues that I need surgery for but cant get til the baby is here. I have had a hard time finding anyone to treat ME as a patient. They see baby and that seems to override my needs every time. I have managed to scrape by getting my meds to maintain me but its been hard. I am on ultram and vicoden. I see a perinatologist but mostly because of the secondary problems I have had. I have spent the last 2 and a half months in bed mostly but not bease of the baby. My fibro has been moderatly worse but I think its because I have had to limit my activity due to not being able to breath. I think I cant breath as a fibro problem that was triggered from a dental problem. Really long story ... I think if I didnt have the dental problems this may have been a relatively uneventful pregnancy again.

Your definantly not alone nor are you crazy. I refused to let fibro keep me from having the family I wanted. Of cource knowing I needed pain meds made it a harder choice but it was a chance I was willing to take. And you know if my baby has problems because of my meds I will of cource feel bad but then I also know that I could hve a perfectly wholistic pregnancy and still have complications. My son was by far my sickest baby and I was med free and drug free and alcohol free and smoke free.... my mom had my brother and smoked the whole pregnancy and he was fine.... there is not always a lot of rhyme or reason. What is gonna happen will happen no matter what you do so I refuse to feel guilty about it.

The biggest thing I can suggest is that you plan on a lot of down time after the baby. Make the baby and your health your ONLY focus for a while and give your self permission to just recover for a while. even if it takes months. If you dont have high expectations on your recovery time you will recover a lot faster and with out a lot of mental distress...

when are you due?

Hello BugBite,
I almost can't believe how similar our pregnancies are. I will have my c-section on Dec. 11, so next Fr. I also have a hard time breathing, I just told myself it is because of high the baby still is, but I wonder if it has something to do with the Fibro. I also basically spend the last 2 month in bed. My pain level shot up and I had to drag myself out of bed just to do stretches. They helped a bit but almost the whole pregnancy was one Fibro flair up after another. The pain was so bad that when I went to the doctor with an anal fissure, which they couldn't fix yet, I had to tell him that the Fibro hurts more than when I riped my butt. They want to fix the fissure with another operation after I recovered from the c-section. I also developed a Bakers cycst in my knee which will be yet another operation. Sometimes I think I am to old for kids since it takes me 2 operations just for the pregnancy damage control. But at the same time I also swore myself that the Fibro will not take over my whole life, and that I will have the family my husband and I wanted.
I think I am on stronger pain medication than you are, I'm on a Fentanyl patch that I replace every 2 days. My baby will most likely have withdrawl symtoms. I found the story of one lady who was on 125mcg Fentanyl during her pregnancy and her baby showed mild symtoms on day 3. I'm on 75mcg so I hope that she will have also mild withdrawl symtoms or if God want none at all like your baby. During my firstpregnancy I didn't take anything, but my son was later diagnosed with Autism. I think a part of me still wants to know why. The fear for my baby seems to cause the pregnancy hormons to kick in even more. I can't sleep anymore without waking up with an anxiety attack or a full blown panic attack. It seems I just can't breath anymore and just want to scream. I don't have bi-polar but anxiety is just as bad. One more week and I hope things will calm down and the Fibro pain will go back to the old levels, and I can concentrate on healing and get everything else, that got damaged, repaired again.
Try to get your c-section still this year if somehow possibe (it would be also great for tax reasons ;) ). My doctor told me "not a day earlier than 39 weeks". I hope your doctor will not be so stubbern. Just remember you are technicly full term at 37 weeks but your baby will gain about 8 oz every week from then on and just grow stronger. There is also a small chance that her lungs are not as well developed if they do the c-section before 39 weeks. I do understand though how painful your situation is. Raw apple juice helps me and Colace which my perinatologist says is safe for the baby. But I bet you are like me right now, you take all that already, and then about 50 grams of fiber a day.
It is good though to know someone else is out there walking in almost the same shoes like I am.
I'm going to have a daughter, what about you?

yep I am already doing all the stool softening things. I havent been constipated weird enough. Its funny how everyone assumes that your not passing stools enough or soft enough if you end up with hemroids but that just inst my case. My worst stool was actually pretty soft (unfortunantly yes I do know what it felt like lol) it was the hemroids that caused me to strain more which developed more hemroids which caused blood clotting... inside and out. Its literally black and blue down there.... not a very pretty sight. I have an A-typical hemroid that looks like a kidney and has the texture of muscel.... there is no shrinking it and removal is the only option. ANd because of size and type it will have excessive bleeding and they will not remove it while pregnant because if I loose to much blood that is bad for baby and could exasberate the bleeding issues. But the surgeon basically said I will bleed from it with out a doubt so hewont risk it.

I actually also have to have 2 surgeries to recover from pregnancy. The first is an oral cyst that developed in the roof of my mouth that made me sooooo sick I wound up in the ICU. The thing that sent me to the er because I couldnt breath for nothin.... I turned out to be a complete wreck. I have elevated liver ensyms, was in a diabetic keatosis (Im not diabetic) and had tachacardia. They got me stabalized and the infection under control and I was able to go home but the breathing has taken me over 2 months to b even reasonable. I still cant walk around the stores I use the silly cart. But it is getting better. I have seen 11 specialists over the last 2 months.... The pulmanologist ruled out the serious stuff and has now said we have to wait til after the baby is here and I can be more mobile to see if it gets better. We are thinking my lungs got wore out and have struggled to recover ever since. basically the fibro struggle....

The oral cyst destroyed my roots of my teeth and I have to have the teeth on top removed after baby is here as well. SO they will be removing the cyst doing a bone graft and removing the teeth and putting in a denture (which I already have made). We were going to do it while pregnant but it was really not affordable 8500$ instead of my share of 750$ if im not pregnant due to having to do it in the hospital instead of the office....

On top of the cyst I ill ahve to have the hemroid issue dealt with as soon as I can after my c section.

My doc says that according to the medical board people that make the rules they are not allowed to plan a c section prior to 39 weeks unless there is a medical risk to mom or baby. So I dont know if the pain level will be enough bu I am seriously thinking of asking at my apt on the 13th if we can have it on say the 21st.... wich would be 20 days sooner then my estimated due date of jan 10th. 13 days for me for no pain is huge... I dont think 13 days for baby will be that detrimental.

Im having a baby girl... we are naming her Ashley Sue. I have a 16 year old son that is asperger dx'ed but you would hardly notice if you didnt know it or know his past.... and I have a 5 year old which so far so good has no problems but I am seeing a tad of a bipolar personanlity but its way to early to dx something like that... so we just started counciling to help her with her moods and her seperation anxiety that she is ging thought right now. I figure teaching her coping skills now will do nothing but good for her in the long run no matter what happens mental illness or not....

Oh I dont think I mentioned I am scheduled for my eviction date for jan 4 at 1130 am.... so I dunno whats gonna happen....

I'm sitting her and wonder if I should laugh or cry. My son is 12. We are so thankful that his Autism isn't worse, he is very high functioning. He is in 6th grade now, and was tested last month, he solves math problems on a 12 grade level, but he has a lot of social problems and he forgets the simplest things over and over. We wonder what he will be like by the time he is 16, we hope he will be able to get a drivers licens.
I had to have a hurnia operation during which my right front tooth was broken. Two weeks later I found out that I was 2 weeks pregnant at the time of the operation. We hope that after we made sure that the baby is ok, the anestisiologist will still pay for a crown that I desperatly need now.
How the heck can they evict you when you just had a baby and are recovering from a c-section? I'm so sorry that you are in this situation. Isn't there a church or somebody that can help out? Or do you have parents you can move in with, where you can recover from all this? You are in my prayers.

heheh no the eviction date IS FOR THE BABY :P

Its my way of having some humor at the fact I have no choice in how to deliver my kids... it started with my daughters due date and has just kinda carried over lol... My son was an er c section and my daughter followed suite for her own reasons... so 2 c sec in I have no choice this time either.... kinda glad given the hemroids... how on earth would I manage to push with an already sore bum????

My son had serious social and behavior issues up until probally his freshman year in highschool. I think his placement at an alt school really helped him straighten out. He still has a lot of social awkwardness... like heven help him if he has to approach a store clerck to ask something. Today I sent him to get some one so I could hold a little hairless rat they had for sale and came back and said he couldnt find anyone not busy lol.... I had to tell him to go back and just say excuse me and interupt.... politely of cource... He admits he has some anger issues and issues with appropriate ways to voice that anger. But he channels his energy and ocd traits from the aspergers into football. He is going to be 17 in may and still doesnt has his license. HE hasnt really asked to betaken for his permit yet. I have offered several times to take him for his permit but he just says he needs to study or some other excuse.... I dont push it when he is ready then he will ask. What kind and level of autism does your son have???? the preteen years can be soooo hard. My son is kinda the opposite his math levels are struggling some but he excells in all his other classes when he trys, which he generally does because football requires good grades and he is rather OCD over football...

thats crazy tha they broke yor tooth... I would sue them if the dont pay for the whole process.... AND I would probaly make them make a trust for future crowns as it will surel take mor ethen one in your life time (I know cause all my teeth are crowns) hmmm I migh even think of contacting a lawyer about it really. I would even concider a root canal prior to the crown just because if you get a crown then the root is more vulnerable and is more likely to need one then if you had not have had the damage.... ya I would call a lawyer really... I am suprised they havent already crowned it for you... you could have done that while pregnant with out a problem.

Hopefully baby will be ok. When they were looking at twilight sleep for me for my oral cyst they said it was not any worse then taking an ambian which I take nightly.... and since the baby stayed put it will probally be ok