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I have Attempted now 3 Times to reply...but ALL three times it came across a Bit Bitchy...and I am TRYING to Be Supportive..

Explain to your Husband the Difference Between Asking for His Opinion and Asking for PERMISSION.

You are Not 12 years old..he is Not your Daddy....if you do the Work Inside the Home then you Are in Fact still Partner WITH him...

What YEAR is this ?? that Women Still Feel the Need to Ask permission ?? "My Husband Told Me No"..?? Yea...not happening in MY World !!

Now IF he woulda Said "Hey Babe, we are a Bit Tight {Financially} right now..can we Hold off a Bit ? that would have been Him Talking to you WITH Respect...otherwise he sounded like a "Big Boss Daddy"....

But I Know when we are Financially Tight {NOW !!} and would not even bring it up..I Too am Looking, I too am TOOO Broke to buy one right now...but as SOON as some Cash Frees Up...I am Ordering my LapTop...Nuff Said !!

Men can be such bootyheads!!! I know that my husband would respond the same as yours. He handles our finances and I work full time still despite how crappy I feel most days. But his identity is tied somehow to our finances- and lately it's been rough with all the medical bills- so he's stressed out- and when he's stressed out he doesn't think about me with empathy.
When I had surgery I asked him why he was being so unsupportive- and he said well, I was there in the hospital- and I'd be there if there was anything serious happening. I had to TEACH him how to be sympathetic and compassionate and he's still learning. Right now- he's really struggling with me being sick and thinking about taking a medical leave- even though he sees everything falling apart before his eyes and me in bed half the time.

I don't know what your financial situation is. I can't afford a laptop or a desktop computer. I'm lucky my brother doesn't mind my using his computer all the time.

Is your husband supportive of you and it's just a question of finances? If your well off financial then I would make him see why you need one.

Well, if he can't spring for a new laptop, he needs to get a better chair for you to sit at the desk in. I would think your nephew's laptop is cheaper.

But, like others have said, if you have the money, go ahead. You asked his opinion and you got it. You don't have to yield to his conclusion.

Computers are fairly cheap now. With it being so close to christmas you can do layaway or even a payment plan like on QVC or something like that.

My fiance and I have an agreement we discuss spendingn issues, that are big purchases. LOL these days anything over 50 bucks is like a major issue. Anyway, there is never asking permission thing, that just sounds so disrespectful to me. I hope you get this resolved soon. Please let us all know how you handle it. I think everyone on here has strong views on your situation.

CHARGE IT GAL! LOL!

yes, order one over the tv. charge it to his account. you need it. i want one too, but working at the computor is the only thing i do in the house out of bed. so i guess it's enough for me. but you should have what you need to get better. tell him we all think so. life is very hard for us and whatever help we can get we deserve. i get massages now, love it, and my daughter pays for it.