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I've been on summer vacation (teacher) for about three weeks. I have been flaring and in such pain and fatigue during this time. I have had medical problems up the wing wang. I was hospitalized 3 times in at the last month. I am feeling so overwhelmingly sick, stressed, lonely, and depressed in the past few weeks. (Don't worry I'm on an antidepressant.) I'm a single mom and I have no romantic intrests. There is a part of me is wanting attention I guess. I have felt so rotten this past month. I just want someone to say everything will be okay. I want someone to take care of me? My 21 and 18 year old boys are sweet and do help me if I ask for help. Although, I have to admit that sometimes they need a little nagging. I spend so much time still taking care of them even though they are older and so much more independent. As we all know a mom's job is never done. I want someone to take care of me? Do you guys know what I mean? I'm tired of feeling bad. I know that there is nothing that a person could really do to make me feel better but I just want someone in my corner.
I had lunch last week with some friends. It was nice but I felt so bad I hardly was talking and enjoying my friends. I know my friends would be their if I asked. Two separate friends gave me rides to and from the hospital this week. It wasn't local. It was 40 minutes away from home. My report time was 6 o'clock in the morning so it was a BIG favor. I appreciate their help and have planned to get together in the next few weeks and treat them to lunch at a local restaurant. So I do have plans this vacation and I try to be as social as my health will allow. Yet, I still feel lonely. Can you guys relate? Do you ever feel like this? Are you overwhelmed with feeling sick and tired all the time? What do you do to help yourself feel less lonely? What do you do to get yourself out of a funk like mine? How do you deal with FM and CFS interfering in your life? Posted on 06/15/12, 09:50 pm |
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You can have a lot of fun by going on the dating forums and flirting with guys on there. You don't have to actually arrange dates, and you can talk to guys from other parts of the country. As long as you keep your information private, use a screen name, etc., it's safe and very fun. 
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I have dealt with Fibro and other health issues for years and years, but it didn't get horribly bad till about 5 years ago, my marriage ended after 12 years when my husband said he got tired of taking care of my sick a@@, so there ya go, my take on a relationship. I must say, after the awful truth of that, and he married a very younger healthier woman the day our divorce became final, it made me stronger, because you have 2 choices, lay down and die, get up and live, and I chose to live. I have very lonley moments and days, but you have to learn to cope. The good thing I have found by being independent is that I can do what I want when I want, and when I don't feel like doing things, I find hobbies or something to keep me and my mind occupied. Right now, to better myself, I am going back to college, that keeps me busy, I also live in an apartment complex, and I find lots of others that are worse off than me, that I can help by just maybe cooking them a meal, or something that I can do. I have some very bad times, pain and lonliness, but I don't want pity from someone, nobody to take care of me, someone to stand beside me would be nice, and someone to just talk with or go out to eat or church or somewhere sometimes, but most the time, I have found time to work on ME for the first time in years, I believe God helps me get through with my faith in him, and I believe when the time is ready, he will be the one to pick the next one, not me. Hope this helped, if you ever want to chat, pm me. I also lost many friends when I became sick when I could not go places, or do things. Hang in there..prayers for you...
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I can relate. I, too, was in the hospital 3 times in the past few months. Right now I'm dealing with numbness in my feet (this added to numbness I was left with on my left side after brain surgery 4 years ago). I'm lonely, but to be honest, I would rather be by myself than be with the guys I've met in the past few years.
I always say when you're down, the only place to go is up. Gentle hugs for you.
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Im sorry I do. My Mom just had to go to a nursing home. I miss her something horrible.
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It's hard to live with this illness, always tired and in pain. Then my eldest son died, at 43, in his sleep. Looked so strong, healthy and handsome no Dr. checked his heart out.
Still I have a family to live for, and I do get sleep with Xyrem which has cut a lot of the pain level. Do try and see a sleep specialist, that's been the most help, and I did have therapy for a long time with someone used to chronic illnesses. Now I'm checking out a new group with a Rabbi. It's hard to have hope, but we must hope for a cure.
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Hey, Dear TKR friend. I think I know how you feel. I know that when I'm sick and laid up whether with a virus or fibro flare or a KNEE REPLACEMENT (!) I can really slip into depression. I think that's pretty normal. And I'm on AD's too.
Teaching takes a huge toll on you, then you went straight from that to illness in the hospital. Your body has been under a huge stress. So, yes, I understand why you feel the way you do. I get lonely when I don't hear from friends or family, when I'm stuck inside. It hurts, too. It's like they're all too busy with their lives to even care what I'm going through. That's very lonely and painful. It will get better. Your body needs rest and healing, and when you feel better physically, you'll also feel better emotionally. You'll be in my prayers. Elizabeth
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believe me...it's better to be alone and be able to rest when you want to than it is to live with someone for 55 years and then he doesn't have a clue as to what fibromyalgia is and expects life to just keep cleaning and cooking and doing all the other things. Sometimes I just want to go to bed and never get up...
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I can certainly relate, esp to Gypsy 44. This condition does have a tendency to make your world smaller. Some people are not "on board", some are, you all know which ones they are. The pain has been a strain on my 21 year marriage, and my mother-in-law, who I thought wass "on board", sent me a nasty letter accusing me of causing my husbands chest pain and stress test. This was devastating, and if my husband wasn't a peach, I would have packed my bags this day. I try to live through the pain, with the meds, that so often don't work, still try to work 2 days a week(barely), and sing in the churd chior. I also know that if I have a really bad day, maybe the next day won't be as bad. I do also stay close to God, as this is a source of comfort. Hang in there everyone, as we are troopers for sure. Fibrohyg
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I know and understand quite well. I am very lonely,and live with husband and kids. I wish I had friends to talk to. When i stopped working i lost all of them. Well keep your chin up and try to smile. Beege
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