What is Fetal Alcohol Syndrome
Fetal alcohol spectrum disorder (FASD) describes a spectrum of permanent and often devastating birth-defect syndromes caused by maternal consumption of alcohol during pregnancy. Th...
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I have just joined and Im not really sure what to do. I drank alot in the 1st trimester before pregnancy was confirmed and my little boy has FAS. He has all the usual facial features along with many of the neuro signs-reacts badly to overstimulation etc,poor sleep/wake cycle. Ive barely slept in months as he is yet to be diagnosed. Im in a marriage that is very unstable not even my husband knows anything is wrong. Im too scared to tell him. My little boy has started to hold his arms out behind him and has a slight head tilt which Im guessing is neuromuscular or joint, not sure as the doctor says its postural.I know you may say maybe its not FAS but a Mum knows what she did and whats normal. Everything I read fits and I know very soon I have to take him to help him, but im so consumed with greif, guilt and fear I feel paralyzed. I hope this isnt too much as i desparately need some help to get through this. I live in NZ and there is no support group here that i know of. I dont know if I can raise him.
Posted on 05/26/09, 01:05 am |
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Can you get in touch with social services in your area? Can they put you in touch with resources? Rather than look specifically for FAS support maybe you need to start with more general support as your problems are a little more far reaching at the moment. If your husband is abusing you your priority might be to remove yourself from the situation even if temporarily. Then you can regain your focus and learn what your next step will be. 
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you have to do what is best for your son in the long run, if you feel that is contacting someone to help or even moving to a place that offers help, then do it. Do not keep avoiding it, it will not go away and neither will your son, unless you choose to let some one else deal with it and allow him to move to a place that he will benefit from. The only down fall from that is how you will take it. You will either feel guilty or you will move close by and be a part of his up bringing by someone else qualified to do so, or you will be happy knowing that you did the right thing for you child. Just remember, GOD placed him in your care for a reason, so becareful what your decision is on how you handle it. Good Luck
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Thankyou both for your reply. I guess its because Im consumed with so much guilt i cant seem to do anything. I would never give my baby up-he is too precious. I always thought things happen for a reason, Im not sure what the reason is for this? Or why he will now live like he will :-(
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